Why You Shouldn’t Date For Potential (Date For Progress, Instead!) | I’m The Problem, It’s Me

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Welcome back to another edition of “I’m the problem, it’s me”, where I call bullshit on myself for the stuff I’ve been getting wrong, because we learn the most through our fuck-ups.

If you’re listening to this, you’re probably dating or thinking about dating… but please (speaking from experience!), whatever you do, don’t date someone for what you think their potential is.

Do not date for what someone could be and ignore what they are right now. This is what leads us to fall for the idea of people and stay much longer in bad relationships than we should… a recipe for abandoning yourself.

So here’s my solution. Date for progress, instead. Because we’re all a work in progress.

Tune in to hear about:

• Why the “I can fix them” attitude isn’t fair to your partner
• Stop telling yourself stories about who someone could be and accept them for who they are now
• Why we shouldn’t pressure our partners too much to change
• How to date for progress and unlock your partner’s vision of their own potential
• Sharing and building out a vision for the future
• Why dating for a specific metric of success or money isn’t always a good idea
• My framework for gaging progress and potential

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• Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
• Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
• Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer

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