397. Carrying Old Pain Into New Relationships with Ali Olivier

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

If we don’t properly heal wounds of our past, they can easily get carried into our future relationships and show up, unprovoked. These can be traumas from childhood, school, past relationships etc., that activate our inner defences and, inadvertently, shield us from opening up to the love, joy and happiness of our new relationships - both with our partners and ourselves.

Today, we’re talking with Master Empowerment Coach, Ali Olivier, about releasing past wounds and reclaiming our inner radiance. Here, she shares how she helps women and men unpack the layers of their past that get in the way of their present and future by getting back to the core of who we are, beyond the barriers. She also provides examples of daily practices for nervous system regulation and exercises for inner child work.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

-Inner child work and healing

-Creating safety in our bodies

-Expanding our window of tolerance

-The role of anger in emotional health

-The power of group healing

-Balancing and honouring past and future versions of yourself

-Healing from trauma

-Carrying old pain into new relationships

-Learning to trust yourself

-Connecting to your body

-How to distinguish intuition from anxiety

-Re-parenting: becoming the parent you didn’t have

-Creating boundaries with your parents

-How trauma gets stored in our bodies

-Exercises for releasing negative energy

-Practices for nervous system regulation

-Recognizing and releasing suppressed anger

My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram.

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