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This podcast from Boston Consulting Group looks around the corner of today’s big business and social issues. The goal–the so what–is to make sense of today and prepare busy leaders and executives for the day after tomorrow. Award-winning British journalist Georgie Frost interviews the leading thinkers and doers at BCG on the trends, developments, and ideas that will shape and disrupt the future. This is not your typical business strategy podcast.

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In this episode, we tackle the growing epidemic of negative thinking and how we can train ourselves to be more optimistic. If you’ve ever struggled with self-sabotage, imposter syndrome, or negative thinking patterns, this episode is for you.

We’ll dive deep into the concept of learned optimism and explore practical steps you can take to replace negative thoughts with positive, life-giving ones.

From understanding cognitive distortions to using powerful reframing exercises, you'll gain the tools to shift your mindset and improve your overall well-being.

🌟 Key Topics Covered:

The role of cognitive distortions in negative thinking
Practical strategies to shift to optimistic thinking
The impact of trauma on thought patterns
How curiosity can lead to self-exploration and healing
The importance of reframing negative thoughts
Creating plans to address fear and uncertainty

Don't miss out on this opportunity to transform your mindset and enhance every area of your life. Subscribe for more episodes on personal development and self-love!

📩 Connect with Jerry:

Website: jerryhenderson.org
Instagram: @JerryAHenderson
Email: jerry@jerryhenderson.org

🔔 Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction

01:06 - Understanding the Brain's Priority: Safety

02:04 - Learned Optimism: Training Ourselves to be Positive

03:12 - The Impact of Trauma on Thought Patterns

04:26 - Cognitive Distortions and Negative Thinking Patterns

05:19 - Trusting Our Thinking: Cognitive Distortions Explained

06:28 - Common Cognitive Distortions

09:35 - You Are Not Alone: Everyone Struggles with Negative Thoughts

11:37 - How to Learn Optimism: Shifting to Life-Giving Thoughts

12:16 - Curiosity and the Path to Self-Exploration

14:05 - How Negative Thoughts Serve Us: Safety Mechanisms

17:16 - Reframing Exercise: Practical Steps to Optimism

20:56 - Finding Evidence Against Negative Thoughts

22:08 - Reframing: A Better Way to See Situations

23:05 - Having a Plan: Resilience and Safety

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Learned Optimism

Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson

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We’ll dive deep into the concept of learned optimism and explore practical steps you can take to replace negative thoughts with positive, life-giving ones.

From understanding cognitive distortions to using powerful reframing exercises, you'll gain the tools to shift your mindset and improve your overall well-being.

🌟 Key Topics Covered:

The role of cognitive distortions in negative thinking
Practical strategies to shift to optimistic thinking
The impact of trauma on thought patterns
How curiosity can lead to self-exploration and healing
The importance of reframing negative thoughts
Creating plans to address fear and uncertainty

Don't miss out on this opportunity to transform your mindset and enhance every area of your life. Subscribe for more episodes on personal development and self-love!

📩 Connect with Jerry:

Website: jerryhenderson.org
Instagram: @JerryAHenderson
Email: jerry@jerryhenderson.org

🔔 Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction

01:06 - Understanding the Brain's Priority: Safety

02:04 - Learned Optimism: Training Ourselves to be Positive

03:12 - The Impact of Trauma on Thought Patterns

04:26 - Cognitive Distortions and Negative Thinking Patterns

05:19 - Trusting Our Thinking: Cognitive Distortions Explained

06:28 - Common Cognitive Distortions

09:35 - You Are Not Alone: Everyone Struggles with Negative Thoughts

11:37 - How to Learn Optimism: Shifting to Life-Giving Thoughts

12:16 - Curiosity and the Path to Self-Exploration

14:05 - How Negative Thoughts Serve Us: Safety Mechanisms

17:16 - Reframing Exercise: Practical Steps to Optimism

20:56 - Finding Evidence Against Negative Thoughts

22:08 - Reframing: A Better Way to See Situations

23:05 - Having a Plan: Resilience and Safety

I am grateful you are here,
Jerry
Setup Your FREE Strategy Call:
Schedule Call
🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here:

Access Course

Disclaimer

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Send us a text In this episode of the “Resilient by Design” series, we explore what emotional resilience really is and why it’s essential for overcoming challenges and staying aligned with our personal goals and values. We examine research-backed strategies for developing emotional awareness, practicing self-compassion, engaging in mindfulness, and cultivating a supportive community—“emotional spotters”—to help us handle life’s ups and downs. We also address how trauma can make it more difficult to trust safe relationships or fully engage with mindfulness, and we look at practical ways to overcome these hurdles in a trauma-informed way. Remember, resilience is a learned skill—just like a muscle—and even small increments of growth are worth celebrating. Key Topics Covered Defining emotional resilience and why it matters The “Resilient by Design” approach: incremental growth and mindset shifts Emotional awareness: recognizing, labeling, and understanding your feelings Self-compassion as a cornerstone of resilience Mindfulness practices for staying present and reducing emotional reactivity The power of supportive networks or “emotional spotters” in times of stress Overcoming the extra challenges trauma survivors face when building resilience Strategies like safe space visualization, somatic therapy, and breath work for trauma-informed resilience Timestamped Chapters 00:00 – Welcome & Introduction 00:34 – Overview of the “Resilient by Design” Series 03:45 – Emotional Resilience: Definition & Importance 05:16 – Aligning Emotional Resilience with Personal Goals & Values 07:09 – Why Emotional Resilience ≠ Burying Emotions 08:08 – Embracing Difficult Emotions as Data (Dr. Susan David) 12:41 – Building Emotional Resilience: Evidence-Based Techniques 13:15 – Emotional Awareness & “Permission to Feel” (Dr. Mark Brackett) 16:05 – Cultivating Self-Compassion 19:16 – Treating Yourself as a Friend: The Power of Self-Kindness 21:42 – Mindfulness, Presence, & Living in the Moment 25:39 – Supportive Networks as “Emotional Spotters” 28:04 – Trauma’s Impact on Emotional Regulation & Relationship-Building 30:22 – Overcoming Trauma Challenges with Safe Space & Somatic Work I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…

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11 weeks前30:24

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Send us a text In this “Best Of” episode, we revisits one of the community’s favorite conversations, focusing on how to rebuild trust in ourselves—especially after experiences of trauma, shame, or self-doubt. In this episode we discuss the common reasons we feel unable to trust our own decisions, from survival-mode thinking to a fractured sense of self. We also look at practical steps for repairing self-trust, including self-compassion, reframing decision-making, and embracing mistakes as part of growth. Key Topics Covered •Why trauma damages our ability to trust ourselves •The role of shame, self-criticism, and negative past experiences •Practical ways to mend your relationship with yourself •Allowing mistakes and learning self-compassion •Methods to connect with your authentic desires (meditation, experimentation, journaling) •Truth-telling, authenticity, and reframing decision-making •Taking accountability instead of seeking external validation •Recognizing your resilience and survival skills Chapters 00:00 – Introduction & Best Of Series 01:24 – Revisiting “Learning How to Trust Yourself” 03:18 – Defining Self-Trust & Its Link to Success 04:55 – The Role of Trauma in Damaging Self-Trust 07:08 – Trauma, Shame & Trusting Our Decisions 09:47 – Overcoming External Approval-Seeking 10:50 – Mending Your Relationship with Yourself 11:29 – Embracing Mistakes & Releasing Self-Criticism 13:43 – Practicing Self-Compassion & Letting Go of Comparisons 15:14 – Connecting with Yourself: Meditation & Experimentation 20:36 – Truth-Telling & Authenticity in Daily Life 22:13 – Breaking Survival-Mode Habits 23:20 – Stop Playing the “Character” Everyone Likes 24:07 – Reframing Decision-Making with Hope 26:02 – Making Decisions Without Constant Outside Input 27:31 – Recognizing Your Resourcefulness I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…

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Best Of Series | There is Nothing Wrong With You 30:52

12 weeks前30:52

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Send us a text In this “Best Of” series, we revisit the impactful episode "There Is Nothing Wrong With You," originally part of a “Chasing Normal” series. Many of us have struggled with the belief that we are inherently flawed or broken, especially those of us on a trauma-healing journey. This episode sheds light on how the belief that something is wrong with you is not a truth but a trauma response—a coping mechanism developed to maintain a sense of control and safety in challenging environments. This episode provides insights on identifying, understanding, and ultimately letting go of this false belief so listeners can return to their authentic selves. This episode also offers journaling prompts, practical exercises, and reframes to help you step out of shame, step into self-acceptance, and experience genuine healing and growth. Key Topics Covered: Understanding that “something is wrong with you” is a trauma-born false belief How this limiting belief undermines self-esteem, confidence, and relationships The connection between trauma, coping mechanisms, and negative self-perception Journaling exercises to uncover the roots of self-doubt and fear Strategies to feel safe without relying on self-blame Replacing limiting beliefs with affirmations of safety and self-worth Resources & Mentions: Returning: A Collection of Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Mindset Mastery Coaching Program: jerryhenderson.org Free Self-Assessment Guide Timestamped Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction & Best Of Series Overview 01:33 – Revisiting “There Is Nothing Wrong With You” 04:41 – Examining the Feeling That Something Is Wrong With You 05:49 – Understanding the Belief as a Trauma Response & Coping Mechanism 07:32 – How Trauma Instills a False Sense of Being Flawed 10:00 – The Destructive Loop of Reinforcing Negative Beliefs 12:38 – How the Belief Influences Relationships, Opportunities & Success 14:33 – Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs and Facing the Fear of Change 19:24 – Strategies for Healing and Shining Light on False Beliefs 20:38 – Recognizing the Voice of Fear & Countering Resistance 21:11 – “Maybe the Only Thing Wrong is the Belief Itself” 22:53 – Journaling Prompts to Identify and Release Core Beliefs 28:01 – Finding Alternatives for Feeling Safe & Creating a New In I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…

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Best of Series | The Impact of Trauma on Our Ability to Think Positively 30:30

13 weeks前30:30

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Send us a text In this series "The Best of the Permission to Love Podcast" we revisit one of the most impactful episodes The Impact of Trauma on Our Ability to Think Positively." This episode delves into the roots of negative thinking, clarifies the difference between authentic positivity and toxic positivity, and outlines practical steps to retrain the brain toward a healthier, more uplifting mindset. We also discuss the importance of acknowledging our emotions, addressing trauma responses, and learning to feel safe in the present moment so that positive thinking can emerge naturally. By the end, listeners gain actionable tools such as writing down three positive things each day and practicing gratitude to reshape their mental patterns. Key Topics Covered: Understanding the impact of trauma on positive thinking Differentiating between toxic positivity and genuine positivity Overcoming survival-based negative thought patterns Using visualization and self-observation to manage intrusive thoughts Building new neural pathways toward a positive mindset Incorporating daily gratitude and emotional engagement Embracing compassion, patience, and self-love on the healing journey Timestamped Chapters 00:00 – Introduction & Overview 01:14 – Defining Positive Thinking: What It Is and What It Isn’t 02:15 – The Power of Positive Thinking & Influence on Well-Being 02:49 – Focus, Attention & Energy: How Thoughts Shape Outcomes 03:28 – Judgment, Manifestation & False Positivity 04:42 – Clarifying Concepts: Authentic Positivity vs. Toxic Positivity 05:11 – Finding Unique Solutions: Tailoring Practices to Your Needs 06:29 – Allowing Emotions & Not Getting Trapped in Negativity 08:32 – Studies on Realism, Optimism & Happiness 09:59 – Honoring Reality While Cultivating Positivity 10:34 – Embracing Gratitude & The Present Moment 12:48 – Trauma’s Impact on Positive Thinking & Survival Mechanisms 13:24 – People-Pleasing, Impostor Feelings & False Positivity 15:19 – Catastrophizing & Survival-Driven Negative Patterns 16:41 – Anticipating the Worst & Struggling to Relax into the Present 18:26 – Negative Self-Perception & Trauma Response 19:37 – Reclaiming Control: You Are Not Your Thoughts 20:58 – Creating Safety & Rewiring the Nervous System 23:19 – Overcoming Red Alert Mode & Allowing Positive Thinking 24:11 – Assigning Your Brain a New Job: Looking for the Positive 25:11 – The “Blue Car” Effect & Redirecting Attention 26:17 – Practical Exer I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…

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Best of Series | Healing Our Relationship With Ourselves 22:18

14 weeks前22:18

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Send us a text The best of the Permission to Love Podcast playlist. In this special series, where I am re-releasing some of the top episodes of the Permission to Love Podcast, we are starting with the very first episode, "Healing Our Relationship With Ourselves." In this episode, we take a look once again at the profound impact that our relationship with ourselves has on every other relationship in our lives. By exploring the root causes of our feelings of unworthiness, we can begin healing this critical relationship. This episode also provides practical exercises to help listeners connect with their inner selves, confront past traumas, and start the process of self-healing. Key Topics Discussed: The importance of healing our relationship with ourselves How self-love is foundational to personal transformation Jerry's personal journey through trauma, addiction, and recovery Understanding why and when we began feeling unworthy of love Practical exercises for self-healing and self-love The role of self-inquiry in addressing internal pain Resources for additional support and healing Resources Mentioned: Coaching Services: jerryhenderson.org Book Recommendation: No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz Call to Action: Take time this week to practice the self-love exercise discussed in this episode. Find a quiet space to reflect on when you first felt unworthy of love, visualize that version of yourself, and extend unconditional love to them. Remember, you are worthy of your own love. Connect with Jerry Henderson: Website: jerryhenderson.org Timestamped Chapters 00:00 — Introduction 01:33 — Beginning the Journey to Self-Love 02:36 — The Impact of Our Self-Relationship 04:00 — Barriers to Self-Love 05:44 — Jerry's Personal Story of Trauma and Addiction 09:34 — The Turning Point: Rehabilitation and Self-Discovery 13:27 — Understanding the 'Why' Before the 'How' 16:06 — Self-Love Exercise 19:47 — Becoming Your Own Healer 21:15 — Resources and Support 22:00 — Closing Thoughts I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…

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Internal Family Systems and the High Achiever | The Healthy High Achiever Series 25:27

15 weeks前25:27

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Send us a text In this episode we explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can help high achievers heal their inner wounds, live more authentically, and find balance. I discuss the IFS concept of parts, such as exiles, managers, and firefighters, and how understanding these roles can lead to profound self-compassion and healing. This episode also includes a guided exercise for using IFS to connect with and heal your inner self. Key Takeaways : Understanding IFS : Internal Family Systems identifies "parts" within us, our exiles (wounded parts), and our protective parts such as managers and firefighters and how they interact. High Achievers and IFS : Perfectionism and overachievement often stem from manager parts protecting exiles wounded by childhood trauma or societal messages. Steps to Healing : Recognize exiles, build a relationship with protective parts, and use self-energy to connect with and heal the wounded parts. Practical Exercise : A step-by-step IFS practice to help bring compassion and healing to their internal parts. The Journey to Wholeness : Healing takes time and patience. It's a non-linear process that requires self-compassion and possibly the help of a professional. Resources Mentioned : IFS Guided Exercise : Practice connecting with your parts through a structured and compassionate approach. Free Download : Tools for self-healing available at jerryhenderson.org . One-on-One Coaching : Learn more about Jerry’s coaching services at jerryhenderson.org . Time Stamps : 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and gratitude for listeners 02:20 - What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? Understanding parts and self-energy 03:27 - Key roles in IFS: exiles, managers, and firefighters 05:38 - Positive intent of protective parts and their impact on high achievers 06:36 - Identifying high-achiever parts and the wounds they protect 08:33 - The wounded exile and its origin in trauma or societal messages 10:04 - Why high achievers develop manager roles 12:06 - Using IFS to heal: Recognizing and building relationships with parts 14:27 - Guided IFS practice for self-healing 16:29 - Offering protector parts new roles as healing progresses 19:52 - Connecting with and unburdening the exile part 21:44 - Providing corrective experiences to the wounded part Connect with Jerry : I am grateful you are here, Jerry Setup Your FREE Strategy Call: Schedule Call 🔗 Access the course "Learning How to Love Yourself" here: Access Course How is your relationship with yourself going? Get your free-self assessment guide Pick up your copy of my book: Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing Watch On Youtube Website: www.jerryhenderson.org Get Your Free Weekly Healing Tips! Instagram: @jerryahenderson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jerryahenderson Disclaimer…