Why you behave the way you do - interview with Dr Sarah Hill

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Do you ever wonder why you behave the way you do in different situations? Do you get into stuck patterns - repeating the same behaviour even if it doesn't serve you well?Whether we realise it or not, we are all influenced by our past experiences. Our early memories influence how we show up, how we interact with other people and what triggers the way we react.Exploring these childhood stories that underpin our behaviour can help us develop greater understanding about ourselves. Regaining command of these stories can be a major act of transformation.In this episode I'm talking with Dr Sarah Hill, Managing Partner at Dialogix and author of 'Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That? A Coaching Guide For Working With Leaders'. Sarah explores how behavioural changes can be made and how you expand your repertoire and range of behaviour.
Dr. Sarah Hill, PhD is Co-owner of Dialogix and is based in the UK. Her early career in a range of different sectors formed the basis for the work she does today as a Dialogue Facilitator and Behavioural Dynamics Interventionist. The focus of this work is on tackling some of the toughest and most demanding behavioural challenges. She has also led the design and development of training in this field that is accredited by the International Coaching Federation. Through her experience as a supervisor of coaches and practitioners she has been described as the “consultant’s consultant“.
Sarah is Author of ‘Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That? A Coaching Guide for Working With Leaders’ and ‘Dare to….’, which is a companion journal to the book. Working globally, she is an internationally recognised expert in childhood story work with leaders providing a way for them to do deeper work on the Self. She is also co-Author of ‘The Tao of Dialogue’, which was published in 2019, has taught at the Said Business School, Henley Business School, Harvard Business School and Hult-Ashridge.
In this podcast episode Sarah discusses various ways in which we behave in particular situations, e.g. someone who is not at the centre of group discussions, watching from the outside but not participating - a bystander. You can become a stuck bystander and become silent. A deeper exploration looks at where this behaviour comes from. What's the story behind this behaviour? For example where you told only to speak when spoken to? What is your internal narrative and is this still serving you well now?
A lot of old stories are quite harsh- you might be telling yourself for example that you should never challenge other people even if they do you harm.
We can rewrite our internal narrative(s) and we can live a new narrative, for example we can change the old narrative of 'I am not good enough' to 'I have value, I am good at this'.
Love is a theme in Sarah's work. Allowing your Self to be loved is vital.
Find out more about Sarah and her work at www.dialogix.co.uk
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