132. Treat Yourself as Well as You Treat Others: Breaking Free from High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole

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Have you ever felt the need to “fix” everyone else’s problems or put others’ needs ahead of your own? I’m proud to welcome back psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole, who shares insights from her book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. Terri reveals what high-functioning codependency (HFC) looks like—chronic overgiving, advice-giving, and prioritizing others at your expense—and explores the emotional and relational costs. She explains how these behaviors often stem from childhood adaptations and offers practical strategies to shift from problem-solving to holding space, set boundaries, and prioritize your own feelings. If you’re ready to stop overgiving and reclaim your emotional freedom, tune in now!

(00:00:00) Introductions

(00:04:20) What is High Functioning Codependency?

(00:14:21) Uncovering Signs of a HFC & The Root of Codependency

(00:25:51) The Real Cost of Codependency & Stopping the Cycle

(00:33:01) The Key to Healing Loneliness & Holding Space

(00:41:04) How to Change Codependent Patterns & Prioritize Yourself

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Guest Info:

• Website: terricole.com

• Instagram: @terricole

• Podcast: Terri Cole Show

• Read: Too Much by Terri Cole

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