Episode 35 Scott & Erika Savor

KickAss Couples Podcast

This week Matthew and Kim sit down with Scott and Erika Savor. These two are extremely driven in their individual careers while still staying exceptionally dedicated to making time to connect with each other every day. This kickass couple makes holding your spouse accountable fun and playful with checklists, team huddles, and ‘tag’ games. They get real about how to balance confronting your partner with difficult conversations while still being respectful. They also discuss how being sensitive to criticism can be a downfall in a relationship and how they have learned to combat this. Listen to this episode for tangible exercises you and your partner can begin practicing today to strengthen your values, connection, and trust with your family and partner.

Keys Ideas:

-the power of writing down your core values as a couple

-Sticking up for what you believe in, in your relationship

-gratitude

-being present

-self-love and independence

Quotes:

“It’s our core value system. It’s written, printed out, publicly announced core values.” Scott

“If she’s flooded with patients she’ll always try to check-in. Daily check-ins, daily huddles, after work, what are the most important things, we call them MITS… get me up to speed, ill get you up to speed so we can pull the cart in the same direction.” -Scott

“Connect, relate, trust and repeat.” -Scott

“I have to share with him, whether it's a sensitive truth, what I believe is right and not care how he responds. Because I used to be the person like my mom who would do whatever I needed to do to make him happy.” - Erika

“The resolution is the fact that we may disagree and that’s okay. The problem isn’t so much of all the things that were unpacking but what we did was end up having the conversation, that was the progress.” -Erika

“It’s a really big deal that we believe in ourselves. We can't get the best out of each other, we can’t collaborate at a high level and give whatever we give to the world until we believe in ourselves.” - Scott

“You have to be the best version of you so you can be the best version for them.” - Erika

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