Episode 33 Rory & AJ Vaden

KickAss Couples Podcast

Superstar couple, and business powerhouses, Rory and AJ Vaden rock the house this week! Not only have these two built a hugely successful company together, but they exemplify what a healthy relationship looks like. This couple has mastered the unique combination of being best friends, business partners and maintaining a thriving marriage based on appreciation, commitment, and honorable values. Despite their opposite upbringings they perfectly complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses, allowing them to thrive in their personal and professional lives. Before entering their marriage, Rory and AJ made a binding commitment to abstinence that laid the groundwork which allows them to feel safe and secure in their marriage. Today they open up about the different practices they follow in their marriage like having hard conversations on hikes, recording their fights, and having code words to keep their partner aware. Whether you're dating, married or single we think you’ll learn loads from this kickass couple.

Key ideas

-The importance of friendship in your relationship

-Approaches to dealing with trauma in your relationship

-Abstinence with your partner before marriage

-Creating boundaries between work, family time, couple time, and personal time

-Gaslighting

Quotes

“When we said our vows I told Rory, I just want to make sure that you’re really sure because when we say I do I’m not ever going to say I don’t.” -AJ

“The choices that we made before we were married were already the signs of commitment that we were going to make this work. Getting debt-free, and even though neither of us were virgins when we met, we were abstinent with each other for the two and half years leading up to our marriage.” - AJ

“If you take sex out of the equation many people don’t have much to offer, and I think unfortunately sometimes that’s true, but we can’t see it because we are physically committed to someone.” -Rory

“I literally thought the goal was to have sex as young as possible, as much as possible with as many different people as possible… that was what the world taught me.”- Rory

“When we feel ourselves going into a discussion, we turn on the recorder on the phone… it’s weird because we’ve never, that I can recall, actually gone back and listened to the recording… but there is something kind

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