The Psychology of the Voice: How to Speak So People Listen with Researcher Tracy Goodwin

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Have you ever questioned why you hold back your true voice, or felt disconnected from your own identity through the way you speak? In this episode, Violetta chats with Tracey Carlisle, an expert in the psychology of voice, as they dive into the powerful connection between voice, identity, and past experiences.

Tracey opens up about her childhood, where the phrase 'children should be seen and not heard' was common, shaping her relationship with her voice and creating a struggle to feel worthy of speaking up. Through her journey as an actor and voice coach, she eventually learned to embrace her authentic voice, and now helps others do the same.

The conversation sheds light on how we build ‘walls’ around our voices, using masks like people-pleasing and fear of judgment to hide our true selves. Tracey highlights how true connection comes not just from the words we say, but from the tone, presence, and authenticity behind them.

They also tackle how women, in particular, face unique challenges with their voices in professional settings, often feeling the need to be 'nice' and avoid conflict. This can lead to their contributions being undervalued, despite saying the same things as their male counterparts.

Tracey’s message is clear: reclaiming your voice starts with self-worth and vulnerability. It’s about showing up authentically, without seeking external validation, and embracing the power of presence. This episode invites you to explore how your voice reflects your inner world and encourages you to step into your true, authentic self.

Episode Timestamps:

• 00:05:19-00:09:15 – Tracey shares her journey from growing up silenced to embracing her voice coaching purpose.

• 00:11:16-00:15:08 – Tracey explains how she helps others strip away layers of protective masks to reveal their true voice, using an analogy of refinishing furniture.

• 00:19:12-00:21:47 – Discussion on how we communicate from wounds and fears, rather than empowerment, and the impact of subconscious blocks.

• 00:25:21-00:27:52 – Tracey explains the role of control and fear of judgment in shaping communication, particularly for women in professional settings.

• 00:34:04-00:38:17 – Tracey expands on societal expectations for women's voices, discussing how women often struggle to be heard or valued.

• 00:43:54-00:46:45 – Tracey shares her process for helping people identify and shed layers to reclaim their authentic voice.

• 00:50:38-00:53:07 – Tracey addresses challenges women face in finding their authentic voice and overcoming the pressure to be "nice."

• 01:01:22-01:04:40 – Tracey discusses the costs of silencing women's voices and how societal standards have influenced perceptions of how women should speak.

• 01:06:43-01:09:24 – Final reflections on embracing authenticity, reframing judgment, and the courage it takes to reclaim one's true voice.

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