S1 Ep:19 Journeys of the Heart Unpacking Self Acceptance and God

Crossing Bridges with Rae

Embark with us on an intimate exploration into the soul-nourishing practice of self-love, as we uncover the sacred act of loving ourselves in the way that God loves us. This episode peels back the layers of negative self-beliefs and strides into the light of self-acceptance. Through personal anecdotes and vulnerable moments, I reveal the pivotal experiences that propelled me from the depths of depression and low self-esteem to a place of empowerment. We delve into the significance of stillness, reflection, and journaling as tools to reconnect with our inner essence and the person we are destined to be.

This conversation invites you to discover the cathartic release of journaling—a powerful vessel for navigating through life's tumultuous emotions. I introduce the concept of a 'dump journal,' an unfiltered space to pour out your darkest feelings, thus initiating the healing process. We tackle the misconceptions around self-love, emphasizing its pivotal role in shaping how we support and extend love to others. Whether you find solace in the arms of a supportive network or are in search of alternative means to express vulnerability, this episode offers insights into the transformative journey of reclaiming your personal power.

Concluding our heartfelt narrative, we confront the essence of personal responsibility within the realm of love and life choices. I share tales of heartbreak, the quest for divine guidance, and the revolutionary power of self-prioritization to enhance our well-being. As we redefine self-love to reflect a more profound, divine connection, I invite you to join a burgeoning community aimed at mutual upliftment. And amidst the deep reflections, there's a spark of excitement—I tease the release of a new song that promises to resonate with our collective journey towards growth and inspiration. Stay tuned for a melody that embodies our next step in this shared path of enlightenment.

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Thank you for joining me for another episode as we cross this bridge together!

So much Love,

Rae

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HIGHLIGHTS:

(05:01 - 06:08) The Power of Writing Emotions

(15:11 - 17:14) Finding Self-Love and Support Together

CHAPTERS WITH SUMMARIES:

(00:03) Loving Yourself and Overcoming Negative Beliefs

This chapter, I open up about the importance of self-love and the struggle to reclaim our true selves in the face of negative external influences. I reflect on the concept that we are loved unconditionally by God and should strive to see ourselves through that same lens of unconditional positivity. Throughout our lives, others may imprint negative beliefs onto us, leading to issues like depression and low self-esteem. I share my personal journey towards self-acceptance and emphasize the power of healing, especially from childhood wounds, by being still, reflecting, and journaling to rediscover the person God intended us to be.

(05:05) The Healing Power of Journaling

This chapter focuses on the therapeutic power of journaling, specifically through the use of a 'dump journal' to process negative emotions and experiences. I share the concept of writing down feelings of hurt or anger as a form of release and self-expression, emphasizing the importance of expelling these negative emotions in a healthy way. I also touch on the significance of self-love and the misconception that it is selfish, reiterating that loving oneself enables us to better love and serve others. Furthermore, I stress the value of having supportive relationships where one can be vulnerable, but also offer alternatives for those who may lack such connections. Finally, I address the issue of women who share their pain online, encouraging them to reclaim their power and not remain stuck in a cycle of complaint without action, all while acknowledging the validity of their experiences.

(10:53) Empowering Self-Love and Personal Responsibility

This chapter emphasizes the importance of taking personal responsibility for our choices, especially when those choices stem from a lack of self-love. I stress the idea that we often give away our love to undeserving people because we haven't learned to love ourselves first. I share my own experiences with heartbreak and how turning to faith and asking for divine guidance has helped me overcome emotional pain. I highlight the necessity of self-reflection and putting oneself first to improve our lives. Additionally, I introduce the concept of moving away from the term 'self-love' towards a deeper understanding of love as an extension of God's love. Lastly, I express a desire to build a community where we can support each other in elevating our self-worth and viewing ourselves through a more loving and divine lens.

(17:46) Excitement for New Song Release

This chapter teases the reveal of a beloved song that I'll be sharing tomorrow, which is Wednesday. I express my excitement about the upcoming reveal and my curiosity about whether the audience will share my enthusiasm for the track. The suspense is maintained as I choose not to disclose the title just yet, ensuring anticipation builds until tomorrow's post. It's a short but sweet check-in, designed to spark interest and keep listeners engaged, and I wrap up with well-wishes, hinting at the upcoming discussion on the other side of the song reveal.

TRANSCRIPT:

00:03 - Rachel "Rae" Mindy (Host)

Yeah, I'm back, welcome, welcome, welcome to another episode of Crossing Bridges with Rae. I am your host, Rae, and today I really really just wanted to come from a really raw and pure place. I hope I don't offend anyone or anything like that. I'm just going to say that in the beginning, because these types of subjects I get really passionate about and can just go off on a tangent and normally my tangents and the passion is where the gold is, is where the aha moment is, is where the value is. So let me just say that and so, yeah, so today I really want to talk about loving yourself the way that God loves you. You know, God loves us unconditionally, right, unconditionally, just as we are. He sees us as amazing and beautiful and wonderful and all of these positive things. But we do not see ourselves that way and so, therefore, we go through life like just bumping our heads, you know, and making wrong choices and going through depression and low self-esteem and no confidence at all, and are making decisions while we are feeling these, what, these different feelings and you know, I've been there. So I'm speaking from personal experience, because it took me a very, very, very long time, in my personal opinion, to truly like, accept who I am, and truly love myself. And you know a lot of those, a lot of the reasoning why it took me so long because I've always thought that I was an amazing person. I always knew that I was unique. I always knew that I was different.

02:10

But what happens is that when people tell you early on that you're nothing, that you're, you know, whatever, whatever those things are, when people put negative thoughts into your head on a constant, constant, constant, constant basis, then you start changing, like, of course, before you started getting those negative messages from whoever it was, you were good, right, because we come to this earth without any of those things, right? It's normally people and circumstances that put those things on us and that shift us and change us in different ways, but we are here innocently and just being whoever it is that God made us be. Unfortunately, sometimes there are people around us in our lives, or whatever the case may be, that either don't like it, have never experienced it, these kind of things, or whatever, and they mold us and shape us into something different than what we already were. And what happens is that the more that you start to believe those things that are like programmed and pushed into your mind. You start living that way and you forget who God made you to be. Right, because at some point in your life even if it was when you were two years old, five years old, three years old, whatever the case may be at some point in your life you're exactly the way God made you, exactly the way God made you. And what I am imploring you to do is for you to work to get back to that point. Get back to that point. Get back to that place, even if it comes to like being playful. Right, because a lot of times, most of where we need to heal is in our childhood. So let's start thinking about those things right and trying to get back to like how we used to be you don't have to be childlike in an adult body all the time, but I promise you it will be very beneficial to you for you to think back. If you can Well, let me not say if you can you can. If you make that a goal, an accomplishment, right, you can do that. We can do whatever it is we want to do. We are capable of doing all types of things. And so, if you want to heal, if you no longer want to think of yourself as ugly or whatever those thoughts are, whatever those negative thoughts are, you can do it. All you have to do is take time, be still, and be quiet. Write in your journal. Just write it out.

05:05

I know I mentioned in one of my videos about a dump journal. This is perfect for a dump journal, right? If someone that you love let's just use an example Someone you love doesn't treat you, right? Write that shit down. Write it down. Write exactly how you felt. Write exactly what you wanted to say, or maybe what you did say or what happened. Write it out. Write it out in a separate journal. You don't have to call it a dump journal, that's just what I call it. I'm actually in the process of creating one, so I'll keep you guys updated on that, because I love journals and so there's no, it doesn't make sense for me to not sell one or to, I'm sorry. It doesn't make sense for me to not offer you one if you want it.

05:54

But, yeah, get it out. You know, if you want to go to, you know, the top of a mountain and scream, or if you want to go in your closet and scream, or if you want to go lay on your bed, get your pillow and scream, it doesn't matter. My thing is to get those negative feelings out because what I find is a lot of times when we don't feel good about ourselves, we kind of sort of keep that inside unless you have, like, an amazing friend, an amazing mom, an amazing like. If there's someone in your life that you can really be vulnerable with and really like express your feelings with which I find a lot of times people don't. But if you do, you have a gift right there.

06:38

But if you don't find whatever it is that works for you, whether it's journaling, or screaming I just I'm just going to say this. I want to say that journaling is healing, an adult journal. The reason why I feel like that is such an important part of your healing process or you're getting to know yourself process, or you're loving yourself process is because there are feelings deep down inside of you that you probably have never said to someone, where you and your journal and keep that to yourself. But you are able to express those feelings, cry, and get those things out because God loves us so much and there is no need for us to be on this beautiful earth that he created and not loving ourselves. It also doesn't make sense for us to be pouring so much love into so many other people and we're not pouring love into ourselves. So I really just want to like, I really really just want to express this Loving yourself is the greatest gift that you can give yourself, and we have been taught a lot in certain instances that it's selfish, and all of these things or whatever, but you are literally filling yourself up so that you can go out into the world and pour that out to other people, because God really does like heal you and bless you through other people, and so our job is not just to take care of ourselves.

08:48

Our job is to share, like those things with other people. That's why I believe God has me doing this podcast, because there are things that I know, there are things that I've done that I can share with other people and bless other people, help other people, restore other people, allow other people not to feel like they're alone, and, for me, one of my number one things that I'm super passionate about is women loving themselves. There are so many women online like literally right now as I'm making this recording that are on social media complaining or crying or talking about how they were hurt and how this person took advantage of them and all these other things, and please do not allow yourself to think that I am minimizing those things. What I'm saying is that we need to take our power back from the thought that there are women online complaining and crying about what their current situation is, what their last situation was, what their ex-husband or ex-boyfriend or whatever, did to them. First of all, let me just say this I've been there. I've been there where I have spent time just complaining, complaining complaining complaining about something that I hadn't fixed or hadn't made any changes about, or hadn't done anything about it. There are also things that were realities for me, being a single mom, you know, being someone who had gone through domestic violence and things of that nature. Like I can go on and on. So I'm definitely not minimizing anything that anyone has been through.

10:53

All I'm asking you to do is to take personal responsibility for yourself and the choices that you've made, and I personally believe that a lot of the choices that we make are because we don't love ourselves. It's because we are giving away our love to someone who doesn't deserve it and we don't recognize it, because we don't even love ourselves. Does that make sense? I really, really want to implore and I'm not just talking to women, I'm talking to men too. But because I'm a woman and because I can relate to a lot of things that women go through, especially single moms, but also women that just don't have that strong self-image of themselves I am telling you, I am imploring for all of you to really think about the things that you're doing and how you're spending your time because you really could be spending time talking to God and asking God what it is that he would have you to do so that you can love yourself more, or what it is that you can do to get out of the situation that you're in, or what it is that you can do to stop feeling so heartbroken.

12:06

I have asked God for whatever it is that you need. I have asked God to take the feelings away about someone who has broken my heart, cheated on me, ghosted me, or whatever. And I promise you, those feelings probably did not go away that day. They might not have even gone away that week, but I promise you, one day I just realized oh my gosh, I haven't thought about him, I haven't cried about him. I haven't even wow. Yeah, none of those memories have come back, you know have come flooding back, like I feel so much better. And as soon as I realize that God has blessed me with what it is that I've asked him for him to do for me, I tell him thank you so many times. I am so happy and so grateful that you have blessed me with that because my heart was broken. It made me feel so bad, I was so depressed.

13:00

Whatever the case may be, whatever it is that you want and whatever it is that you need, god will provide it for you. But you first must have the faith. You first must believe. But without all that, you first must ask whatever it is that you want, ask God, believe in God, believe that he will give it to you, and not on your time, but on his time. Not on your time but on his time. Not on your time but on his time. I had to say it three times, so I really just wanted to come on today. I'm a little late, but I just wanted to come on today and just really pour into you.

13:49

Like I know, people talk about self-love and loving yourself, and that's why I didn't use self-love, because I'm kind of sick of using that word because people use it way too loosely and don't really know what it really means. God is love. God is love Unconditional. You are loved. You can love yourself unconditionally. All types of doors will open for you, all types, and I'm not saying that doors won't open for you if you're if you don't love yourself. But why would you not want to love yourself? You are the most important person in your life, you. You are the most important person in your life. You are the most important person in your life. Learn to love yourself, learn to value yourself, learn to see yourself and put yourself first before anybody else, and watch your life, your day-to-day, your future, your present. Just open up to something absolutely beautiful. So I am going to go.

15:11

I really just wanted to like just share some love and just virtually embrace each and every person who is listening to the sound of my voice that is going through any of this depression, heartbreak, just sadness. Stop yourself, stop yourself. And it's okay to mourn, it's okay to cry. It's not like it's not okay, it's okay. But we just don't need to stay there, right, and at the end of the day. We need to put ourselves first. We don't need to be on social media arguing with men. We don't need to be on social media debating as to who's more important and all this other stuff. You are the most important person in your life Period, point blank.

16:07

Now, if this is something that you want to take further because I do have, I do have something that I created. I think it was maybe in 2021 that I really do want to get a community of people to go through it with me, and so if this is something that you're interested in, I am in the process of creating a group so that there can be a little bit more like communication between us and so that I can share some of the things that maybe that I do on a daily basis that might be able to help you move out of, like, the low vibrational, negative type of feelings and let's start moving up the ladder so that we can really see ourselves in a whole new light and see ourselves the way God sees us. I want to thank you so much for listening to me. Thank you for listening to another episode of Crossing Bridges with Ray. It is so important to me to share what I know and what I have in my arsenal so that you can cross over the bridge with me. Thank you so much for being here and I'll see you on the other side for another episode.

17:46

I've got another song for you for Wednesday, which is tomorrow. So, yeah, I'm excited to see if there, if anybody, if anybody, loves this song the way that I do. I will not let you know what it is now, but I will be posting it tomorrow. Have a great one and, yeah, I'll see you on the other side. Thank you for listening to another episode of Crossing Bridges with Rae.

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