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Navigating Career Pivots and Grit with Milo’s Avni Patel Thompson 26:18

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How do you know when it’s time to make your next big career move? With International Women’s Day around the corner, we are excited to feature Avni Patel Thompson, Founder and CEO of Milo. Avni is building technology that directly supports the often overlooked emotional and logistical labor that falls on parents—especially women. Milo is an AI assistant designed to help families manage that invisible load more efficiently. In this episode, Avni shares her journey from studying chemistry to holding leadership roles at global brands like Adidas and Starbucks, to launching her own ventures. She discusses how she approaches career transitions, the importance of unpleasant experiences, and why she’s focused on making everyday life easier for parents. [01:26] Avni's University Days and Early Career [04:36] Non-Linear Career Paths [05:16] Pursuing Steep Learning Curves [11:51] Entrepreneurship and Safety Nets [15:22] Lived Experiences and Milo [19:55] Avni’s In Her Ellement Moment [20:03] Reflections Links: Avni Patel Thompson on LinkedIn Suchi Srinivasan on LinkedIn Kamila Rakhimova on LinkedIn Ipsos report on the future of parenting About In Her Ellement: In Her Ellement highlights the women and allies leading the charge in digital, business, and technology innovation. Through engaging conversations, the podcast explores their journeys—celebrating successes and acknowledging the balance between work and family. Most importantly, it asks: when was the moment you realized you hadn’t just arrived—you were truly in your element? About The Hosts: Suchi Srinivasan is an expert in AI and digital transformation. Originally from India, her career includes roles at trailblazing organizations like Bell Labs and Microsoft. In 2011, she co-founded the Cleanweb Hackathon, a global initiative driving IT-powered climate solutions with over 10,000 members across 25+ countries. She also advises Women in Cloud, aiming to create $1B in economic opportunities for women entrepreneurs by 2030. Kamila Rakhimova is a fintech leader whose journey took her from Tajikistan to the U.S., where she built a career on her own terms. Leveraging her English proficiency and international relations expertise, she discovered the power of microfinance and moved to the U.S., eventually leading Amazon's Alexa Fund to support underrepresented founders. Subscribe to In Her Ellement on your podcast app of choice to hear meaningful conversations with women in digital, business, and technology.…

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How do I stop living in fear of failure? Why can't I stop overthinking? When will I feel good enough? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionistic tendencies instead of being owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) illuminates this in every episode. Listen for fierce insights for perfectionists on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop people pleasing without compromising kindness, overthinking, catastrophizing, ruminating and black and white thinking, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and start enjoying the life you've worked so hard to create. Perfectionism Rewired podcast provides answers to questions like: - Self worth vs self esteem - Why am I overthinking - How to increase self confidence - What causes perfectionism anxiety - Why am i so hard on myself - Am I A Perfectionist - WTF is Interoception? Does It Build Resilience? - how to rewire your brain Being a perfectionist is very powerful. But only if you know how to leverage it. For more on optimizing your perfectionism go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

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Perfectionism Rewired

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The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth 16:58

約 3 日前16:58

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Feel like you're working hard but not seeing the progress you want? It's NOT YOU or your PERFECTIONISM – it's your Person Account™ . Discover my proprietary framework that’s changing the game for Perfectionist Solution’s clients, and will do the same for you. In this Episode You’ll Learn: How ruminating + running a 10k impact you the exact same way Why perfectionist brains work overtime + cost more to operate How to tell if you’re operating in a constant state of depletion without realizing it What Cortisol actually is (it's NOT a STRESS HORMONE) The hidden reason therapy + personal development don't work On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Resources Mentioned In Episode 252: Perfect Start Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 TIMESTAMPS: 0:53-Why You're Not Making Progress Despite Trying Harder 02:15-Allostasis: How Your Brain Allocates 05:07-The Hidden Reason Therapy Isn’t Working 06:30-Why Perfectionist Brains Cost More to Operate 07:25-Living in a Depleted State Without Realizing It 09:31-Stressed out: Eustress vs. Distress 10:29-Truth about Cortisol + Stress Response 12:35-The Slow Drip of Perfectionist Burnout 15:17-How to Tell if You’re Running on Empty Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology , 146 , 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951 Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development , 66 (2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723 Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology , 23 (4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌ Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics , 90 (1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696 Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour , 1 (5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069 Knezevic, E., Katarina Nenic, Milanovic, V., & Knezevic, N. N. (2023). The Role of Cortisol in Chronic Stress, Neurodegenerative Diseases, and Psychological Disorders. Cells , 12 (23), 2726–2726. https://doi.org/10.3390/cells12232726‌ McEwen, B. S., & Gianaros, P. J. (2011). Stress- and Allostasis-Induced Brain Plasticity. Annual Review of Medicine , 62 (1), 431–445. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-med-052209-100430 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Neuroplasticity 7:20

約 8 日前7:20

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On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire In this Episode You’ll Learn: How neuroplasticity works and why it’s crucial for perfectionists The surprising difference in brain flexibility before and after age 45 Real-life coaching breakthroughs that prove brain rewiring is possible Why *use it or lose it* is the key to changing perfectionist tendencies The fastest way to stop rumination, self-doubt and overanalyzing mistakes Resources Mentioned In Episode 251: Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why Age 45 Is a Brain Plasticity Tipping Point 01:07-Analogy for what is neuroplasticity 02:52-Rewire your brain with Perfect Start Session 05:29-Framework for Rewiring Perfectionism Inside Out 06:10-Transformative Effects of Cognitive Flexibility Citations/Sources: Cramer, S. C., Sur, M., Dobkin, B. H., C. O'Brien, Sanger, T. D., Trojanowski, J. Q., … Haber, S. (2011). Harnessing neuroplasticity for clinical applications. Brain , 134 (6), 1591–1609. https://doi.org/10.1093/brain/awr039 Fuchs, E., & Flügge, G. (2014). Adult Neuroplasticity: More Than 40 Years of Research. Neural Plasticity , 2014 , 1–10. https://doi.org/10.1155/2014/541870 Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging , 23 (4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345 Isheqlou, L.K., Soltanlou, M., Zarean, M., Saeedi, M.T. and Heysieattalab, S. (2023). Feedback-related negativity in perfectionists: An index of performance outcome evaluation. Behavioural Brain Research , 444 , 114358–114358. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bbr.2023.114358 Petersen, J., Ong, C. W., Hancock, A. S., Gillam, R. B., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). An Examination of the Relationship Between Perfectionism and Neurological Functioning. Journal of Cognitive Psychotherapy , 35 (3), 195–211. https://doi.org/10.1891/jcpsy-d-20-00037 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why 21:51

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"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc. Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits, how chronic stress impacts your brain’s ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating 02:16–Missed the last episode? Here’s a quick recap 04:06–What happens when your brain gets it wrong 06:09–Why perfectionist brains resists learning from mistakes 07:40–6 sneaky reasons your brain ignores new info 08:23–How chronic stress keeps your brain stuck 10:20–Why your brain clings to old patterns 11:42–The hidden reason you avoid discomfort 12:51–When your brain blows things out of proportion 13:49–How black-and-white thinking is like wearing blinders 15:19–Why past experiences warp your reactions 19:34–How to update your brain so you can get unstuck 21:09–One small shift to start seeing change today The first step in rewiring Resources Mentioned In Episode 250: Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248 How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249 When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences , 364 (1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310 Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews Neuroscience , 16 (7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience , 15 (2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences , 36 (3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477 Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3 Lital Yosopov, Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure Sensitivity in Perfectionism and Procrastination: Fear of Failure and Overgeneralization of Failure as Mediators of Traits and Cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment , 42 (6), 705–724. https://doi.org/10.1177/07342829241249784 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience , 5 . https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 ‌McNally, G. P., Johansen, J. P., & Blair, H. T. (2011). Placing prediction into the fear circuit. *Trends in Neurosciences*, *34*(6), 283–292. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tins.2011.03.005‌ Meyer, A., & Wissemann, K. (2020). Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults. *Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience*, *15*(1), 87–95. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018 ‌Roy, M., Shohamy, D., Daw, N., Jepma, M., Wimmer, G. E., & Wager, T. D. (2014). Representation of aversive prediction errors in the human periaqueductal gray. *Nature Neuroscience*, *17*(11), 1607–1612. https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3832 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Are You Using Your Perfectionist Brain Wrong? Signs, Neuroscience + Solution 17:18

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Uncover why being super rigid, ruminating, overthinking, people pleasing, over-preparing, excessively worrying — are signs your perfectionistic brain is misfiring. Plus, learn the neuroscience-backed solution to take charge of your perfectionism instead of letting it rule you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-What Makes Perfectionistic Brains Unique 04:02-How The Brain Works 07:32-Neuroscience Behind Overthinking 09:25-Catastrophizing Your Way to Chronic Stress 10:37-Ruminate + 11 Signs Using Your Brain Incorrectly 11:58-Neuroplasticy to rewire the brain 14:03-What Gets In The Way of Rewiring 15:59-Black + White Thinking Resources Mentioned In Episode 249: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Catastrophizing Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 188 Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 216 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience , 15 (2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience , 5 . https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here 22:05

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Feeling overwhelmed? Stressed out? Anxious? Being vague about your emotions is like saying you're "craving food" for dinner—utterly unhelpful! Your perfectionist brain needs precision to create the right action plan for you. Learn why labeling your emotions accurately is crucial for regulating your body's responses and the essential skillset all perfectionists need to understand their emotions, what the feelings mean and what to do about them, guided by the latest neuroscience research. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 01:08-Controlling of emotions 03:13-How to stop feeling overwhelmed 05:28-Muffin-Cupcake Experiment 07:54-Why Words Hold Physiological Power 09:48-Emotional Regulation skills 12:14-What the skill of emotional granularity buys you 14:23-How to rewire your brain 15:27-Becoming an Emotional Sommelier 18:52-How do you construct your emotions more accurately? Resources Mentioned In Episode 248: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes in Expressing Emotions Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience , nsw154–nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154 Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15 (6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239 ‌Crum, A. J., Corbin, W. R., Brownell, K. D., & Salovey, P. (2011). Mind over milkshakes: Mindsets, not just nutrients, determine ghrelin response. Health Psychology , 30 (4), 424–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0023467 Gendron, M., Lindquist, K. A., Barsalou, L., & Barrett, L. F. (2012). Emotion words shape emotion percepts. Emotion, 12 (2), 314–325. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0026007 Hoemann, K., Gendron, M., & Barrett, L. F. (2022). Assessing the Power of Words to Facilitate Emotion Category Learning. Affective Science, 3(1), 69–80. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-021-00084-4 Hoemann, K., Khan, Z., Kamona, N., Dy, J., Barrett, L. F., & Quigley, K. S. (2021). Investigating the relationship between emotional granularity and cardiorespiratory physiological activity in daily life. Psychophysiology , 58 (6). https://doi.org/10.1111/psyp.13818 Hoemann, K., Lee, Y., Kuppens, P., Gendron, M., & Boyd, R. L. (2023). Emotional Granularity is Associated with Daily Experiential Diversity. Affective Science , 4 (2), 291–306. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-023-00185-2 Hoemann, K., Nielson, C., Yuen, A., Gurera, J. W., Quigley, K. S., & Barrett, L. F. (2021). Expertise in emotion: A scoping review and unifying framework for individual differences in the mental representation of emotional experience. Psychological Bulletin , 147(11), 1159–1183. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000327 Satpute, A. B., Nook, E. C., Narayanan, S., Shu, J., Weber, J., & Ochsner, K. N. (2016). Emotions in "Black and White" or Shades of Gray? How We Think About Emotion Shapes Our Perception and Neural Representation of Emotion. Psychological science , 27(11), 1428–1442. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797616661555 Westlin, C., Theriault, J. E., Yuta Katsumi, Nieto-Castanon, A., Kucyi, A., Ruf, S. F., … Barrett, L. F. (2023). Improving the study of brain-behavior relationships by revisiting basic assumptions. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 27(3), 246–257. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2022.12.015 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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The Right Way To Compare Yourself 23:39

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It’s impossible to stop self-comparison as a perfectionist. You.Are.Going.To.Compare.Yourself and here’s the best way to do it! Discover 6 empowering ways to rewire unhealthy self-comparisons, perfectionism trash trades, how to tell if you’re fear-based striving, live coaching on 4 IRL examples of comparing, the only skillset you need for this to work 100% of the time and a tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 01:26-Choosing Your Response to Comparisons 03:07-The Skill Set of CAKE 05:41-Trash Trades in Perfectionism 06:55-Healthy vs. Unhealthy Comparisons 08:47-How to Reframe Self-Critical Thoughts 09:25-Breaking Free from Fear-Based Striving 10:49-Living in the Present, Not the Future 15:52-What Self-Comparisons Actually Reveal 17:39-Tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself 21:48-How Tiny, Mighty Progress Fuels You Resources Mentioned In Episode 247: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself [PART ONE] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 How Can I Stop Comparing Myself [PART TWO] Perfectionism Rewired Eo. 246 Meeting Yourself Where You Are Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 187 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Olson, J. M., Buhrmann, O., & Roese, N. J. (2000). Comparing Comparisons. Handbook of Social Comparison , 379–398. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4237-7_18 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How Can I Stop Comparing Myself 23:45

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Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists 01:41-The hidden costs of comparing yourself 06:31-Recognize self comparison as a type of self punishment. 10:11-Why intellect isn't enough to rewire perfectionist tendencies 12:13-Developing skill sets over gathering knowledge 15:00-Why it's scientifically harder for perfectionists to stop unhealthy self-comparison 16:08-Acceptance vs. judgment in rewiring perfectionism 18:00-What Silver vs. bronze medalists show us about comparing yourself to others 21:30-Choosing growth over fear of failure Resources Mentioned In Episode 246: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself (pt.1) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 Discovering Your Hidden Motivators Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80 Intrinsic Motivational Patterns Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 66 Citations/Sources: Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin , 145 (4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Comparing Yourself 22:30

9 weeks前22:30

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Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others 02:32-The Annoying Problem with Surface-Level Self Comparison Tips 03:46-Self Awareness vs. Self Coaching: What's the Difference? 05:34-Dangers of DIY Approaches to Rewiring Perfectionism 07:25-Why “How To Stop COmparing Yourself To Others” tips backfire for perfectionists 12:10-Comparing Insides to Outsides Never Adds Up 14:13-Moving the goalposts 17:49-Punishment vs. Discipline: Changing Behaviors without Pain 19:31-Understanding the Why Behind Your Perfectionistic Tendencies Resources Mentioned In Episode 245: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Be Proud of Yourself Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 237 Chasing Validation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 236 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: McCarthy, P. A., Meyer, T., Back, M. D., & Morina, N. (2023). How we compare: A new approach to assess aspects of the comparison process for appearance-based standards and their associations with individual differences in wellbeing and personality measures. PLOS ONE , 18 (1), e0280072–e0280072. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0280072 White, J. B., Langer, E. J., Yariv, L., & Welch, J. C. (2006). Frequent Social Comparisons and Destructive Emotions and Behaviors: The Dark Side of Social Comparisons. Journal of Adult Development , 13 (1), 36–44. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0 Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Overexplaining 23:41

22 weeks前23:41

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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining 02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain 05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining 08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem 12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining 14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health 16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain 20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is 22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining Resources Mentioned In Episode 244: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212 Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 ‌Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology , 9 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798 Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Dealing With Uncertainty When You Want To Control EVERYTHING 8:07

25 weeks前8:07

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Craving Certainty? That need to be absolutely, undeniably, 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize it in your own life and take control of the fear uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). You’ll discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, even before every detail is known. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance 00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of 01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty 02:21-Examples of Uncertainty 03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty 04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill 05:34-Making Good Decisions 06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome 07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out Resources Mentioned In Episode 243: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504 Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-y Seif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications. ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Waiting For the Right Time 8:45

25 weeks前8:45

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Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Leclerc, F., Schmitt, B. H., & Dube, L. (1995). Waiting Time and Decision Making: Is Time like Money? Journal of Consumer Research , 22 (1), 110–110. https://doi.org/10.1086/209439 ‌Osuna, E. E. (1985). The psychological cost of waiting. Journal of Mathematical Psychology, 29 (1), 82–105. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-2496(85)90020-3 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It) 10:17

25 weeks前10:17

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Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today! Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84 (2), 191–215. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.84.2.191 Katie Stringer Lucero, & Chen, P. (2020). What Do Reinforcement and Confidence Have to Do with It? A Systematic Pathway Analysis of Knowledge, Competence, Confidence, and Intention to Change. Journal of European CME , 9 (1), 1834759–1834759. https://doi.org/10.1080/21614083.2020.1834759 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information 16:33

25 weeks前16:33

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Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 240: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215 The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…

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Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power 36:47

26 weeks前36:47

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Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: - Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love? - Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary - how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries - Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries. - Perks of impeccable boundaries - How who/what hurts you, can't heal you Resources Mentioned In Episode 239: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202 Everything You Need To Know About Self-Regulation As A Perfectionist Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 194 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.…