#312: How Safe Is Safe Enough To Re-engage Fully In My Relationship

Therapy Brothers

Caller Megan's Question: " My husband has been sober from a porn and masturbation addiction for 6 years. We both did a lot of therapy and attended support groups for a long time. We both feel like we have healed and changed in so many ways. However, I still really struggle with a fear of intimacy with him after all these years. If he hugs me in bed, I shut down and freeze up and feel super anxious and claustrophobic. He has told me I avoid him and avoid intimacy by staying busy with the kids and other things. I used to think this wasn't true, because I'm not doing it intentionally. But now I think he is probably right....it is uncomfortable for me to be close to him, so I find other things to do. I don't know how to overcome this. He wasn't safe emotionally for a long time. He is for the most part now. Am I waiting for him to be perfect? How safe is safe enough to re-engage fully, and how do I fight against the alarm system going off in my brain anytime we are close?....…"

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0:00 - Introduction
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