Navigating Boundaries

Manxiety Podcast

Its official.

As a general rule, we humans suck at boundaries.

We either completely bulldoze over our boundaries to the point of abandoning ourselves due to the fawn response,
Or we are imprisoned by them and become reactive jerks.

There’s an in between, and on this new “Manxiety” podcast episode with Dr. Russ Kennedy we discuss the top 3 questions I get when it comes to navigating this heavily nuanced topic.

We use a funny example when he came over for dinner to illustrate the nuanced nature of fawning and boundaries.

Without getting this right, we simply can’t experience relationships as fulfilling.

Watch/Listen here.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima.

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P.S. Navigating relationships can often feel like walking through a maze blindfolded, especially when patterns of fawning and unclear boundaries take the lead. If you're sensing that cycle of giving too much and receiving too little, or if the fear of conflict keeps you from expressing your true self, our workshop might be the turning point you need.

In our "From Fawning to Secure Boundaries Workshop," we explore:

• The roots of fawning behaviors: Understand where they come from and why they persist.
• The power of boundaries: Learn to establish them in a way that respects both you and others.
• The dance of push and pull: Find balance between closeness and personal space.
• The language of conflict: Turn arguments into pathways for greater intimacy.
• The shift from anxiety to assurance: Replace relationship insecurity with self-reliance.

With each concept, we'll dive deep with Neurosensory exercises, making sure these insights move from mind to muscle, becoming part of who you are, not just what you know.

This isn't just another workshop—it's an invitation to change the way you engage with yourself and the people in your life. If you're ready to break free from old patterns and step into a world where you can trust yourself and your responses, join us Friday the 15th of March from 4-7 PST (7-10 EST)— which is Saturday the 16th at 11am in Sydney. For only $30–It's time to stop fawning and start living.

ELEGANT BOUNDARIES ARE MASTERED HERE.

Summary

In this episode of the Manxiety Podcast, Dr. Russ Kennedy and Dr. Nima Rahmany discuss the importance of boundaries in interpersonal relationships. They define boundaries as an energetic limit that separates one's own needs and desires from those of others. The conversation explores the concept of fawning, a trauma response characterized by a reflexive desire to please others and prevent conflict. The hosts emphasize the need to establish and communicate boundaries to avoid resentment and maintain healthy relationships. They also discuss the role of symptoms as expressions of unmet boundaries and provide insights on how to navigate situations where boundaries are not respected. This conversation explores the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and the process of changing and renegotiating those boundaries. It emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding when setting boundaries and the potential for repair and growth in relationships. The discussion also touches on codependency, resentment, and the impact of childhood experiences on boundary-setting. The conversation concludes with a workshop announcement on how to develop secure boundaries and advocate for oneself in relationships.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are an essential aspect of healthy interpersonal relationships.
• Fawning is a trauma response characterized by a reflexive desire to please others and prevent conflict.
• Symptoms can be seen as expressions of unmet boundaries.
• Setting and communicating boundaries is crucial to avoid resentment and maintain healthy relationships.
• When boundaries are not respected, it is important to assess the situation and have open, honest conversations about values and priorities.