The repercussions you'll face if your approach volume DECLINES

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One of the natural phases a male will progress through as he approaches women over time will be that of "enlightened complacency" 2-3 years in. After approaching girls for 2-3 years, he'll start to ask himself *why* he should even approach at all. Why does he *need* to? He's demonstrated/proved to himself that he can sleep with various women if he wants to, so why go out of one's way to be hyper-bold and audacious. Is it really necessary, he asks himself. He hasn't abandoned approach altogether. Of course he still enjoys meeting women. But he just doesn't see a compelling reason to go out of his way to be as stunningly audacious as perhaps he's been up until this point. I call this the "enlightened complacency" phase because I now view this as one of the predictable phases a male who approaches will pass through as he continues on his journey meeting women. Males early on in their approach life, even if completely unaware of it, are often out meeting women simply to prove to themselves that they're capable of getting laid. They don't just want to get laid; they want to prove to themselves that they can get laid. They're trying to check off this box on their inner male. After 2-3 years of getting laid a bit, the male has begun to feel like he's demonstrated to himself that he's capable. Why approach as much if he's already proved he can get laid if he wants to. So what happens is this: the male enters a lower volume period where he doesn't approach as much. This period will generally last 3-9 months. Yes, he will continue approaching. But not nearly as much. He'll find himself passing up various approaches that require him going out of his way. "I don't need to approach that girl. I'm good." During this time, his non-neediness and confidence levels begin declining. He's not aware of it. Because he's a fledgling approach practitioner without much experience to reflect on, he doesn't understand the repercussions of lower volume. Nevertheless, he isn't phased in any way and just lives out life, albeit approaching less, over the next 3-9 months. He once again doesn't see a compelling reason to approach. He's generally content, he tells himself. A guy could theoretically ask, "Michael, but if you're still approaching, even if less, wouldn't your non-neediness and confidence levels still go up? Why would they start declining if you're still approaching. Are you saying non-neediness and confidence are micro-volume-dependent?" My response is: Although approach always increases the male's non-neediness and confidence, yes, it is the male's increasing frequency of forgoing approaches he thinks about making during his complacency phase that is responsible for the decline in non-neediness and confidence. I've talked about before how there's never any stagnation in the male's non-neediness and confidence baselines. You go up or down with every approach vs non-approach. The male might make gains with the approaches he does make, but he essentially incurs a net loss because forgoing approaches is harmful to his psych.

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