A Good Tefila

Living Emunah By Rabbi David Ashear

The Gemara tells us, one of the areas we constantly need chizuk in is tefila . No matter how good a person's tefilot are, over time they tend to become more habitual and therefore could definitely use chizuk . The Meiri writes that a person should always feel confident in the power of a good tefila to break a decree and if someone is going through a tough time, or has a family member that is ill, he should go to a chacham and ask him for advice on how to have a good tefila . What is a good tefila ? Obviously one with emotion and tears and obviously one with kavana . But there is another very important factor that could make the tefila truly great. When Rachel Imenu saw that she was barren for many years, she told Yaakov to do something to ensure that she will have a child. The Ramban explains, Rachel was asking Yaakov to pray, thinking that the tefilot of a tzaddik like Yaakov would for sure be answered, especially if he puts all of his efforts into it. But Yaakov replied, there is no guarantee that his tefilot would ensure that she'll have a child. Then, says the Ramban, when the tzadeket Rachel saw that she couldn't even rely on the tefilot of Yaakov who was the Gadol HaDor , that's when she prayed with all of her heart and soul, realizing she had to go straight to Hashem because He was the only One who could help her. Then, וישמע אליה אלוקים – that is when Hashem answered her tefila and that is when she finally had a child. The best prayer is one in which the person realizes Who he is standing in front of and what His capabilities are. This is one of the reasons why we start the Amida with praise, so we realize who Hashem is, and only then do we make our requests. We all know that only Hashem could help us, but from time to time, we need to be reminded of it so that it is at the forefront of our minds. I read a story about a couple from Israel who did not have children for many years. They went to a lot of doctors and none were able to help. One day, the man was telling his friend he didn't know what else he could possibly do to be helped. His friend said to him, he heard there's a top doctor in America who has helped many couples with cases that seemed hopeless. People fly from all over the world to see him. He suggested trying to get an appointment with that doctor. They took his advice and traveled to America and consulted with that doctor, who raised his hands helplessly saying he didn't know what to do to help them. There was one more highly recommended doctor there, but his fees were exorbitant. The couple decided they had to try and they waited there for weeks to finally see him. That doctor analyzed their case for a very long time. He did his own testing and finally concluded by saying, "I don't see any problems at all with you. I can't explain why you are not having children, but I do see that you are religious Jews. Pray to your G-d. Only He could help you." When they heard those words from the top doctor in the field, they took on new meaning to them. From then on, they spent every tefila crying buckets of tears, understanding who they were actually talking to and, within a year, they were blessed with a baby boy. There is nothing that can take the place of a good tefila .