Tracy Poizner - Ep. 28.3 - I allowed myself to accept help from other people.

Divorce: The First Six Months with Peter Maestrey

In this episode Tracy begins with sharing how she had no idea how to get through it. The steps to move forward, or how to handle a divorce were not something she had access to. So, she did what she knew she could do. Things like seeing a therapist and working through what she could. Although she wasn’t completely convinced that it was working, that led her to seeking a second therapist who would then introduce her to meditation and guide her along that path. It is taking the steps forward toward understanding that kept revealing the process for her.

As she reflects inside our conversation about what it was like during that time, she reveals how some of her friends had been through a divorce, yet she had never talked about it with them. How having that available to her was a big piece of her healing. It would become another stepping stone towards allowing her to accept help from other people.

One of the things that was present for me inside this episode you is how when you listen to yourself, and then share what is inside. You begin to take steps towards healing with a greater velocity. You begin to uncover the muck of what you were, as you start to create the you that you really want to become. Healing takes many shapes and forms, as the many conversations within this podcast has revealed to me, but the common denominator amongst all of us who have endured a divorce is speaking up, and seeking ways to express ourselves.
In marriage, we assume this imaginary role of what is expected of us, or of the relationship. And oftentimes, you can hear in the stories how important it is when someone finds themselves again. As you will in Tracy's story. They all begin with that one step, and then, like the ball of yarn left near the curious kitten. It begins to unravel.
So, if you have a moment to just close your eyes and take in a breathe. I invite you to remember the times when you were happy, recall all the details. Who was there, what you were wearing, or when it was. Or you can think of the things that constrain you at the present time. What your mind may circling over and over again and causing you discomfort or weariness. Think of whatever it may be that weighs you down, or elevates you. Then create the next day, month, and year to be bigger than where you are at. To be brighter. Then share what it is that you want with three or more people. Paint the picture for them in detail of how it looks to have it. I promise you, having it become a reality will begin there.