#53 3 Orgasm Blockers & The Importance Of Sexual Chemistry With Dr. Tara

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So many people have trouble orgasming and aren’t experiencing true pleasure during sex. Today on The Bad Girls Bible, sexual and relational communication profession Dr. Tara joins us to discuss the three main blockers of orgasms and why sexual chemistry is so important! In this conversation, you’ll hear all about Tara’s conservative background, what led her to the USA, why she became a professor of relational and sexual communication, body neutrality, sexual empowerment, Tara’s podcast, textbook, and the TV show she is in, and so much more! We delve into the three main reasons women struggle to orgasm before Tara shares her thoughts on the success of relationships with no sex or chemistry and how she helps her clients solve these issues. From attraction, to boundaries, to saying no, to the best positions for clitoral stimulation, to the use of vibrators, this episode has it all! We even discuss how same-sex schools affect sexuality in adulthood. Finally, our guest tells us all about what praise kink is. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

• An introduction to today’s guest, Dr. Tara.

• Tara’s background and how she became a professor of relational and sexual communication.

• Why Tara loves the concept of body neutrality instead of body positivity.

• How sexual empowerment can solve the issue of women faking orgasms and hiding it.

• Tara tells us about her textbook and podcast and how she ended up on Celebs Go Dating.

• The three main reasons women struggle to orgasm: physical, psychological, and relational.

• Why Tara believes you cannot have a successful, happy, long-term relationship without sex.

• How scent contributes to sexual chemistry and why it doesn’t ever lie to us.

• Tara’s advice for what to do when in a sexless relationship with no chemistry.

• The different categories of attraction and how it can be developed.

• Why breaching boundaries is so detrimental in a relationship.

• The importance of chemistry and why it cannot be built from nothing.

• Tara speaks about the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire.

• Why saying no is so liberating.

• The best, easiest positions for clitoral stimulation.

• Why men are generally so insecure about using vibrators and sex toys.

• What praise kink is and how a couple can explore it.

Quotes:

“The solution to the inability to orgasm or even to embrace pleasure overall is sexual empowerment.” [0:07:57]

“So many different physical issues contribute to the inability to orgasm.” [0:14:43]

“Every single person is entitled to what is right for them. If you're in a relationship that you don't have any sexual chemistry with your partner, it's your prerogative to decide if you want to do.” [0:23:25]

“A breach of boundaries is a killer of trust.” [0:29:09]

“For me, the most important thing that I learned in my previous relationship that you can never get unless it was there is chemistry.” [0:33:29]

“There is no good sex life – without communicating, without feeling confident, without feeling comfortable in your skin.” [0:42:04]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Luvbites by Dr. Tara — https://www.luvbites.co/

Dr. Tara Email Address — [e-mail]

Dr. Tara on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtaraluvbites/

Dr. Tara on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ Dr. Tara on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.co

Dr. Tara on X — https://twitter.com/luvbitesco

Sexual Communication: Research in Action — https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Sexual_Communication.html?id=KRRVzwEACAAJ&redir_esc=y

Celebs Go Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5993484/

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter