But you don't look like an engineer

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Ever had someone assume you’re not an engineer just because of how you look? Us too.

In this episode, Jasmine and Allison are breaking down the everyday nonsense of tech stereotypes and how to handle them without losing your cool. We’re talking about everything from being mistaken for non-tech roles to dealing with people who assume you don’t know what you’re doing just because they’ve never seen someone like you in their field.

This episode is packed with stories, laughs, and real talk about how to navigate these awkward situations. We cover when to let it slide, when to clap back, and how to stay focused when others are underestimating you. Wanna know why you don’t have to prove anything to anyone about your skills? We’ve got you.

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Highlights:

• Battling Stereotypes: Jasmine and Allison dive into the frustrating reality of being underestimated in tech, sharing personal stories about the ridiculous assumptions people make based on appearance. They explore why it happens, how to handle it, and why you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
• The Power of Silence (and When to Speak Up): Sometimes the best response to doubters is saying nothing at all. Other times, it’s worth setting the record straight. This episode explores how to read the room and decide when to let things go—or when to deliver a comeback that leaves them speechless.
• Confidence Without Validation: Allison and Jasmine unpack the emotional toll of constantly feeling like you need to prove yourself at work. They share tips on how to stay confident, set boundaries, and focus on your own growth without seeking external approval.

Jump into the conversation:

(00:00) Breaking down the stereotypes

(01:12) Big News: Jasmine and Allison are working together again!

(02:26) Sass in Meetings: The playful dynamic that turns heads

(04:09) “You Don’t Look Like an Engineer”

(05:49) Letting Go of Validation: Staying confident in the face of doubt

(08:41) Story Time: Hiding the truth about being an engineer for fun

(11:23) Drinks on Him: Gender roles, assumptions, and free drinks

(14:09) Judgment in Tech: Dealing with appearances and assumptions

(18:57) Why Don’t People Ask?: The importance of self-awareness in tech

(20:14) Managing bias and staying confident at work