In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective …

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need …

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And wha…

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our con…

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensit…

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now wh…

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the…

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexu…

Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language. We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no. Our conversation conclu…

This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and diffi…

This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and hon…

On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR. Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage. We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of…

On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex. We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis. What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importanc…

This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A. We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she…

This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway. We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame. We emphasize t…

Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to dr…

In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need…

In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships. We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it. It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests. Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessic…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality. We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a goo…

In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, c…

In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections. We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and exp…

In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or cr…

On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to mini…

In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, havi…

In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality. We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about sex shape our experiences. He highlights the need for individuals to have a sense of agency and the abilit…