You guys — we did it — we trapped a true switch for switch poly couple with our big butterfly net and dove deep into their deeply respectful and inspiring relationship. Join us for a convo with charismatic Aussies Abbey and Liam for a tour through their individual love lives, and the love they have for fostering connections in their broader ENM com…

Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. Registration ends 9/27 at 11:59pm pacific. Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet. Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom last year! Get my ful…

We’ve all been there — an on again, off again dynamic that keeps us trapped in a cycle where we feel that person is the one who can unlock the sex life we really want, if only they’d switch back to “on again.” In this episode we talk about the paradox of longing and how to get yourself licking new coffee cups before you know it. Get your spot in th…

More and more D/s couples are having to put their dynamics on pause lately, and we want to give you the tools to find your way back to each other. This week, Lina’s talking about the integral role of play in building trust and putting your whole (figurative) p*ssy into your vulnerability. ***Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn…

We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to feel more at home in queer spaces. Lina affirms that they’re allowed to be there, and anyone whose opinion is worth considering is probably just thinking they’re hot. Fewer queer cops, more queer fucking!!! To support the pod and join our …

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes and how we sort kinks into this category. Her new book Why Are People Into That?! is out now wherever books are sold. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions fo…

GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina’s popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of conspirituality-adjacent terms like ‘divine masculine & feminine’ into sex education spaces. She also goes into why her submission doesn’t feel feminine, but an intense space to reckon with the masculine. Controversial? Probably…

In a transmission from God’s hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie who’s playing with a doctor to enjoy the free medical care without shame. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack …

We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex positive language to confuse subs? Enter: Fake Dom 2.0. In this episode, Lina shares signs you may be dealing with a Fake Dom 2.0, vetting questions to …

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change a…

Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin’, and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lu…

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight …

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won’t click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn’t support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you’re a k…

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered your q’s in real time just like the old days. Get info about Ask A Sub Office Hours on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe …

This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See …

Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podc…

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire. Catch R.O.’s Thirst Inventory here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby…

Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the server. Dollie and Lina talk community building and maintenance, and how they curate the best (dare we say??) kink space on the internet. Listen on Pat…

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive doing and embrace submissive being. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit que…

Age Play is considered by some to be one of the most taboo kinks out there, but what if it was just cute inner child work? Age play creator Baby Linh joins me to unpack misconceptions about the kink and offer solace to those who feel called toward it. Get the full interview on Patreon for $11/month. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a su…

Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of the day is spitting it out - from feelings to actual fluids, comedian Alison Stevenson and Lina have you completely covered. With information. Just information and humor. Unless…? Follow Feeld on Instagram here, or download it using this link. To…

That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big feelings and occasionally get it wrong. Substack: What We Talk About When We Talk About Cucking To support the pod…

Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of her sexuality she’s discovering in the midst of parenting. Come for the fire pregnancy nudes, stay for the warm-hearted acceptance for wherever you are in your journey. Get the full interview on Patreon for $11/month. To sign up to be no…

Back after a 2 week break and we got a great interview to bring you with one of the sharpest cats in the game. Young, energetic and smart with the bets, we welcome Christian Odjakjian to share his story about his days at Wake Forest and how he's made a name for himself in our little corner of the internet. We talk about betting tendencies in colleg…

Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road. Get your Sub Survival Guide for 20% off at http://www.askasub.com/courses with code AWAKENING To su…

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead. Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast here. To support the pod and join our thrivin…

How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@…

Absurd to think about but we've reached the Final 4! Taylor & Subbi give their predictions for the semifinal games and predict the title game as well. We also talk about how lovely Central Arizona is and Taylor gives out some recommendations. With this possibly being the last episode of the year, we had to pay homage and give some shout outs. Most …

Can't believe we only have 3 games left in the season! Taylor & Subbi recap the Sweet 16 and Elite 8 games. First, they had to officially put the Arizona season to bed and there were some harsh words. Then we talk about how the remaining 4 teams got to Glendale. Some amazing stories combined with stellar play have the Final 4 set! Learn more about …

A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people as individuals in a sex positive context. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub comm…

Borrow a suit from your old man, tie up those shiny shoes & spray some cologne because we are headed to the Sweet 16! Taylor & Subbi give their predictions for what should be an epic weekend! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSubbi による

As always, it was a tremendous first weekend in the NCAA Tournament. Taylor and Subbi dive into some of the most compelling results that occurred. Of course we talk Gohlke, Burns, Bama & the Zags to name a few. Get yourself some air and enjoy the recap. We're back at it Thursday, folks! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all. Get my essay about the miscarriage on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kink…

You know DAMN well what time it is. We had to break down our predictions for the bracket right before tip. Not much else to say here. We give you 2 hours of monster content and explain why all of our picks will probably go up in flames. The Dance is HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…

The tournament officially starts today so we decided to break down and predict the First 4 in Dayton. Not gonna lie... I am not a SWAC guy so I can assure you I didn't pick Grambling. Wagner/Howard however could move me. It will be a very slow and methodical game but it'll be fun! Then we got the 2 power games that we'll break down. We also had to …

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Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces. To get this full episode, go to Patreon or Substack. For that piece of writing I was talking about get it on Patreon or Substack. …

It's funny where life takes you. When we started this lil passion project podcast back in 2017, I barely knew how to operate Google Hangouts to record. Then we slowly but surely graduated to interviewing coaches, former players and folks with great stories in the game. Well all of that lead us to to this point. This episode. Somehow, I sat down wit…

Doesn't get any better than sitting down with Greg Waddell in the month of March to talk hoops. Truly one of our favorite dudes in the business. We spray it around and talk everything from fatherhood, to the growth of his podcast, to everything in college basketball. We talk mid majors vs. power, the sport's popularity and of course a lotta Big Ten…