Episode Notes [01:14] Unexpected Email from Employer [05:49] The Deferred Resignation Program [06:34] Initial Reactions and Concerns [08:01] Evaluating the Offer [08:21] Enhanced Standards of Conduct [08:55] Personal Reflections and Concerns [12:21] Seeking Advice and Making a Decision [13:01] Option One: Do Not Resign [14:56] Option Two: Resign [16:44] Insights from Conversations [21:30] Making The Decision [23:51] Final Thoughts and Gratitude Resources Mentioned Sebastian Junger The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson Donald Trump Elon Musk Steve Bannon Russell Vought Derek Sivers Sumner Crenshaw Brian Fretwell at Finding Good Chad Littlefield The Thought Leaders Practice by Matt Church Simon Cowell Beauty Pill Producer Ben Ford Questions Asked Is it legitimate, and can it be trusted? How are you feeling? What questions come to your mind? Where does your mind go? Are you seeking safety? Would this have been an adrenaline rush as you raced to send the resignation response? What an "enhanced standard" regarding loyalty and trustworthiness was? What are these new "enhanced standards?" Are they beyond what my Constitutional oath requires? If I don't resign, how bright will the target on my back glow? My leadership has supported all my work, but would termination direction come from higher up the chain of command? What would you recommend if we talked over coffee? What questions would you ask? How would you use listening? How would you use silence? How is this scenario playing out in your mind and body? What is coming to the surface for you? How might that influence what you are about to say to me? What are the chances of my name popping on a list and getting fired? How about the chances of being part of an official Reduction in Force and early retirement? Would the administration make a better offer? What do I know about the pending job market? What did I expect the workplace to be like and did I want to be there as the contractions took place? Will the administration pay me through the end of September or will they renege? Can I sufficiently build the Curated Questions business to transition by 1 October? - Do I have the faith or confidence to step into this future as a sole practitioner and grow Curated Questions into all I envisioned? Was this purpose calling? What would I expect the job market to look like at the end of summer if I hadn't developed the income streams to maintain our lifestyle? What is your recommendation? Did it change from your initial recommendation? Where in your body are you feeling the uncertainty? Are you processing this scenario in parallel with your decision as if you had received the email? What additional questions should I have considered? Who else should I have consulted with? How would you have changed my risk rating? What is the correct length of the pregnant pause before making an important announcement? What processes would you use in my circumstance, and what would be different? What questions are at the top of your list to get to a decision? Who would be the members of your pantheon you would counsel with to gain clarity? Apart from the heady analysis, what other key practices would you include in your journey through a similar situation?…
留言告訴我你對這一集的想法: https://open.firstory.me/user/cm7lyrytm000301u916n8gubs/comments 自我評估問題 1. 你能否接受伴侶出去跟其他人有性行為或是親密約會?原因為何? 2. 你和伴侶之間的溝通是否足夠開放和誠實?開放式關係需要不斷地溝通、調整和解決衝突,這對你來說是否能夠做到? 3. 你是否知道自己的界限並能夠清楚表達? 4. 你是否完全信任你的伴侶? 5. 你是否享受獨立的空間,並願意在一段關係中維持個人的自主性(自己做自己的事情)? 6. 你對性和親密關係的觀點是什麼? 7. 你是否能夠有效地處理開放式關係可能引發的情感波動,如嫉妒、失落或不安? 8. 是什麼原因讓你想要嘗試開放式關係? 參考資料 1.高培哲(2024)。異性戀男性於開放/多重關係之分手失落悲傷經驗探究。 ﹝碩士論文。國立臺北護理健康大學﹞臺灣博碩士論文知識加值系統。 https://hdl.handle.net/11296/eh9357。 2.悅知文化(2024)。你能接受「開放式關係」嗎?什麼樣的人適合?這樣的感情還是愛嗎?https://www.marieclaire.com.tw/relationship/sex-relationship/78148/open-relationship 3.Conley, T. D., & Piemonte, J. L. (2021). Are there “better” and “worse” ways to be consensually non-monogamous (CNM)?: CNM types and CNM-specific predictors of dyadic adjustment. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 50(4), 1273–1286. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-021-02027-3 4.Conley, T. D., Matsick, J. L., Moors, A. C., & Ziegler, A. (2017). Investigation of consensually non-monogamous relationships: Theories, methods, and new directions. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 12(2), 205-232. 5.楊政銘(2018)。男同志單一伴侶開放式關係實踐經驗之敘事探究。﹝碩士論文。中國文化大學﹞臺灣博碩士論文知識加值系統。 https://hdl.handle.net/11296/waq525 。 6.Conley, T. D., Piemonte, J. L., Gusakova, S., & Rubin, J. D. (2018). Sexual satisfaction among individuals in monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35 (4), 509–531. https://doi.org/10.1177/ 0265407517743078 7.Mogilski, J. K., Memering, S. L., Welling, L. L. M., & Shackelford, T.K. (2017). Monogamy versus consensual non-monogamy: Alternative approaches to pursuing a strategically pluralistic mating strategy. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 46(2), 407–417. https://doi.org/10.1007/s1050801506582 8.Anna欸娜(2024)。開放式關係算是一種愛嗎?怎麼找到適合的對象?ft. @deerdeermilu |Anna欸娜。https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIitcAI6F2k&ab_channel=Anna%E6%AC%B8%E5%A8%9C Powered by Firstory Hosting…