Today our topic is “Compromise in Relationships" recorded with the community on October 10, 2020. Happy Halloween! Anyone can join in on these calls by going to our Community Page and sign-up to receive notifications about upcoming calls. Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.RelationshipByDesign.com 760-603-8343…

Today our topic is “The Pitfalls of Promises” on our twice-monthly Zoom Community Call. At the end of the call, someone asked if there would be a replay of the call? We took a poll to make sure nobody would have any problem if we shared the complete call. Nobody objected so here it is. The complete 1-hour and 18-minute audio version of the call. Th…

The original title of this episode recorded on August 15, 2020, was “Do you have your relationship handled? Part 2" HOWEVER at the top of the call Lon asked the question “What’s possible with going forward?” So as it is with all relationships, things change. Carol England gave us permission to use her extended comments about how she and Jeff are th…

We thought today we’d give you more excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joining us for the next call by going to the Community page on our website at RelationshipByDesign.com and sign …

We thought today we’d give you some excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joining us for the next call by going to the Community page on our website at RelationshipByDesign.com and sign …

Have you ever said something snarky, spiteful, unkind, or just plain thoughtless, to someone you love? How did it go? Did you get into a fight or hear a defensive reaction? Or worse. Perhaps you ended a relationship. It happened to us and opened a door to greater intimacy. As Paul started to take lunch to his desk, Carol let fly this one: “So, do y…

At the beginning of our workshop, “Relationship: The Real Deal,” some participants are startled when we announce this intention: “The issues you have been dealing with, trying to fix, or just plain tolerating … dissolve/disappear simply by being in relationship.” For people who believe that successful relationships require work, that intention seem…

Well, our first question for you is, “Are you willing to set aside your penchant to fix, change or leave your relationship?” Leaving, either physically or emotionally, surely doesn’t resolve anything. It simply transports your concerns to your next relationship. But staying and trying to deal with it doesn’t resolve anything either - especially whe…

How do people move from ordinary relationship to extraordinary relationship? In ordinary relationship, we react to upsets by pulling out of the experience of relationship, the experience that we actually long for. It’s extraordinary to be aware that upset, irritation or annoyance are simply our individual reactions to ordinary events. At any given …

For many of us during this time of “physical distancing,” we’re finding ourselves at home, sheltered in place, and in close-quarters with family members, and just maybe feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all. As Lon&Sandy said in this episode, “It could be said that family - is a network of relationships.” If you’d like to join us on the Zoom communit…

In this episode, Sandy&Lon continue with John briefly educating us on a coaching course they had done years ago for parents titled Parents: Outside The Trap. Are you interested in knowing more about the course? Let us know here. If you’d like to join us on Zoom for community “What’s On Your Mind?” calls, click here and add yourself to the notificat…

In this episode, John Biethan the producer of the podcast, asks Sandy&Lon for their comments on his thoughts about "arrangements." In some family relationships, in certain conditions, and when people get together in relationship and marriage, there “may” be a conscious or unconscious “arrangement and/or agreement” at play. In the next episode, Sand…

Subtitled: An Individual-based paradigm In this episode, we’ve taken the liberty of starting off with the last few minutes of the previous episode 10, Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2, where Sandy&Lon talk about relationships during the holiday season. For more insights into the impact the holidays may have on your relationships, listen to ep…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Continuing on from episode 008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1, today Sandy&Lon take a deeper look into fear and what happens when it feeds into relationships when they're shaped. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.Relatio…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com If you really listen to yourselves talking about your relationships, you’ll hear (1) how often you exaggerate with “always” and “never” - which fills your future with your past - and (2) how often you unconsciously talk about what happened in the past as if it’s happening now - which also fills your future with your pas…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Commitments and promises are the foundation for every relationship. What is the basis for your relationships? For ALL relationships? There’s a foundation that all relationships rest, lay, or stand on. For the most part, as human beings, we haven’t really looked at what our relationships stand on. Today, Sandy and Lon ex…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Paul Bennett from Relationship By Design is reading his blog post about Politics and Relationships. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in relationships, too. Could there be a connection? All of us want politics to deliver wh…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Sandy and Lon Golnick are talking about the “fantasy” in a relationship they call Strike 1. They’ll be covering the problems; what you’re looking for; everything you want, all the time, everywhere, w/everyone, forever - and that fantasy is not going away. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Unseen conditions undermine effectiveness. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick take a look at what’s hidden from our view when we have upsets or concerns, and breakdowns in relationships. So what happens when you don’t see what’s actually going on? If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About R…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Subtitled: Synonyms, characteristics, actions; you don’t know; problems; blame. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation discussing “What is a relationship?” The question is not answered here, but what’s given are a few things to consider when attempting to understand what a relationship is. If you’re new t…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation about the 3 facts about relationships in hopes of leaving you with questioning, wondering, and curiosity about relationships. Relationships are natural. There is no escaping breakdowns in your relationships even though relationship is natural. People don’t know what …

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Does your relationship have what it takes to last? A relationship could be considered to be a structure. And like any structure, its strength and durability is determined by its foundation. A strong foundation produces a strong, lasting relationship. The strength and longevity/survivability of any structure – a building…

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Lon and Sandy Golnick were interviewed in the mid-2000s by their good friend and associate Jill Raiguel, MS, MST, and who is a California Marriage & Family Therapist. It was recorded and engineered by Bill Corkery Productions. The recording became a CD which we've released here as the first podcast episode for Relations…