Tom Krasny is a queer, trans, neuro-divergent Glasgow based artist and organizer who is passionate about non oppressive ways of relating. Tom’s work sits on the seam between art and activism, and centers consent as a valuable orientation to collectively learn and practice new skills and tools that allow us to explore relationship to self, others an…

Street Fever is a versatile, mixed-media performance-artist residing in Boise, Idaho. Rooted in an ongoing spiritual awakening, Street Fever has been on a wildly cinematic path to better understand themselves as an artist, spiritual seeker, and human being. After losing all their possessions, being institutionalized multiple times and nearly losing…

Laura is a Toronto native who has been based in Amsterdam for 5 years. She started cuddling professionally with a small client base during COVID and launched her business Lekker Cuddles officially in March 2021. Laura’s aim with Lekker Cuddles is to normalize platonic intimacy and prove to people that physical and emotional vulnerability does not h…

Aarij Abbas (he/they) is a queer, South Asian-American sexual health educator based on the stolen land of the Ojibwe, Odawa and Potowatomi tribes, colonized as Chicago, IL. Aarij creates spaces of trust and community for people to freely explore concepts of sexuality, gender and relationships. Their work is informed by the idea that: A) humans are,…

Last Episode of 2023! Marcus Barnes is a man of many talents: an author, journalist, copy writer, mentor and coach dedicated to being a progressive force in the world of writing, especially surrounding music, culture and mental health. It’s a joy to talk to Marcus today on Sober Sex. You can find out more about Marcus on his socials @mgoldenbarnes…

Lael Atkinson is a certified professional recovery coach who works at the intersection of drinking and dieting. During their experience of parting ways with alcohol and then tackling a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating and body shame, they found limited resources that addressed this frequent overlap of ‘shrinking and drinking’. This led Lael t…

Brooke Herr is a multi-talented education, healer and holder of space for ceremony, including but not limited to: grief work, tarot, somatic & energy work. Brooke draws inspiration from reserves as vast and profound as witchcraft, ancestor work, art practices and consent and coaching frameworks. It is a pleasure and a privilege to welcome Brooke to…

Meet Sharlene Durfey Francois, a creative force who seamlessly weaves art and human connection into the fabric of her life. Sharlene's multi-faceted portfolio reflects her passion, creativity and talent across many artistic media, including photography, fashion, lighting, graphic design and illustration. In creating the Intimacy Cards, Sharlene’s s…

Brianna Hammerman is a psychotherapist based in Boulder, Colorado, specializing in Equine Assisted Psychotherapy. She is also an old friend, a shameless horse girl and Co-host of ‘Unbridled Therapists’ podcast. I am thrilled to welcome her to the show today!

Tatiana Oliveira Simonian has worn many hats: musician, music journalist, big deal marketing executive and holistic career coach and consultant, Tatiana is also a spiritual warrior with long term sobriety and a dear old friend. I’m so happy to talk to her on today’s episode of Sober Sex! You can find more about Tatiana and her work at https://www.t…

Tawny Lara is an NYC based millennial also known as ‘The Sober Sexpert’. Her book, ‘Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating and Hooking Up Without Booze’ comes out September 19, 2023. If you like what she has to say, buy her book here! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/730665/dry-humping-by-tawny-lara/…

Rae McDaniel is a non-binary therapist, certified sex therapist, transgender diversity and inclusion educator, speaker and author of ‘Gender Magic’. They are the founder and CEO of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice based in Chicago, and an international advocate for gender freedom. We are thrilled to welcome Rae to the show toda…

Jessi Kneeland is a queer + nonbinary writer, speaker and body neutrality coach. On June 6th, their book ‘Body Neutral, A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Body Image Issues’ was published. This is Jessi’s second time on Sober Sex and we are so happy to welcome them back.

Tamsin Embleton is an attachment based psychotherapist and the director of the Music Industry Therapist’s Collective (MITC). She has worked as a music promoter, tour manager and artist manager for ten years prior to shifting her focus to therapy, and she has recently published ‘ Touring and Mental Health: the Music Industry Manual’. It is a delight…

Meenadchi has over 10 years of experience in trauma and crisis stabilization. She is the author of ‘Decolonizing Nonviolent Communication’ and is a family constellation therapist, working to help clients release intergenerational baggage and discover (or rediscover) a sense of purpose, sovereignty and motivation for doing good work in the world. I …

Apologies for the recent delay in new episodes, we have a ton of great stuff coming your way and this episode sets a tone for great interviews to come. Thanks for your patience, please SHARE IT WITH YOUR FRIENDS, rate, review, subscribe, follow, whatever. This is a labor of love and your support is incredibly meaningful. Michael Marcus is a person …

LIL TEXAS is a dj and musician known as ‘the kink daddy of American Hardcore. Here for the underdogs, the outcasts and black sheep of dance music, Lil Texas is also clean and sober, and we are thrilled to discuss all of this and more today on Sober Sex. To learn more, check out https://www.instagram.com/liltexas/…

Margeaux Feldman is a writer, educator and community builder committed to providing folks living with trauma opportunities to build connection. Margeaux is an academic who has left the institution to focus on aligning with their core values of compassion, curiosity, accountability and emergence. Margeaux is also the sweet genius behind glorious ins…

Juan Maclean is an internationally celebrated DJ, Producer and performer, in addition being a ceremonial guide and space holder, and sound director of Cardea Space. He has an extensive background in recovery from addiction and depression, and I’m proud to call him a dear friend. On today’s show we will cover some topics that are quite controversial…

Adam Ficek is a psychotherapist, counselor and renowned musician and DJ based in London. He is a member of the band Baby Shambles and a solo artist, and he works with the NHS, BAPAM, Help Musicians and Tonic Music specializing in working with musicians and treating addiction disorders. He is currently finishing his doctoral studies on musicians and…

Luke Jenner is best known for his work with the celebrated dance-rock band The Rapture and his captivating music as a solo artist. He is also a visual artist and a certified life coach, and a father and husband in long term recovery. This episode talks about his journey to this point, through music and love and parenthood. Find out more about Luke …

Erika Moen is a queer cartoonist based in Portland, Oregon. With over two decades in the comics industry, she has co-created the sex positive series ‘Oh Joy Sex Toy’ and the sex nd relationship book for teens ‘Let’s Talk About it’ with her husband Matthew Nolan. Erika is a frequent guest on Dan Savage’s beloved Savage Lovecast and is currently or k…

Mia Schachter is a consent wizard. They are a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, intimacy coordinator and consent educator working in and teaching several different modalities for consent. We are beyond thrilled to talk to Mia today. Please check out Mia’s work at https://consentwizardry.com/ or on instagram @consent.wizardry, and listen to their …

Ryan Dusick is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist with an MA in Clinical Psychology. He is also the founding drummer of the wildly successful band, Maroon 5. Ryan recently published his memoir ‘Harder to Breathe’, which chronicles his struggles with anxiety and alcoholism, his band’s rise to success and the devastating loss of his ability t…

Risdon Roberts is a sex and intimacy coach, IPSA certified, trama-informed surrogate partner with training in on set intimacy coordination for film and TV and in consent and restorative practices. She helps clients with sexual dysfunction and with navigating non monogamy, and in connecting to their bodies to access joy, pleasure and liberation. Rid…

Paul Leroy is relentlessly creative. Former big deal musical director at numerous large hotels across the US, now big deal crypto guy and blossoming filmmaker based in France, Paul has been in the process of doing deep work healing from trauma and recovering on a profound and powerful level. We are thrilled to talk about all of this and more today …

Sophia Cleary is a queer multi-disciplinary powerhouse: actor, writer, artist, comedian and performer drawing from experiences as diverse as being a birth doula, waiter and analyst for a private investigator. Sophia has presented her work at esteemed venues around the world and is presently host of monthly comedy show SMILE KNIFE and is workshoppin…

Tristan Hunt is a certified Transformational Coach specializing in helping music industry professionals who are struggling with ADHD. Recently having departing his post as regional manager for the Association For Electronic Music, Tristan remains a steadfast advocate for neurodiversity within electronic music culture. We are thrilled to talk about …

Emilia Richeson-Valiente is a performer, actor, dancer and emotive aerobics facilitator based in Los Angeles. Emilia is also the wildly charismatic leader of the benevolent cult of Pony Sweat, a fiercely non competitive dance aerobics celebration. Pony Sweat is a practice in anti-perfectionism and radical self-acceptance, the goal of this high ener…

Romy Hoffman is an Australian artist, producer, songwriter and DJ based in LA. She fronts an all girl post-punk band called ‘Agender’, runs her own label, ‘Climax’ and throws celebrated parties HOMOCCULT and and Lez Croix. She also makes visual art. She is a powerhouse of fierce creativity and we are delighted to welcome her to Sober Sex today.…

Erin Khar is an author and advocate known for her writing on addiction, recovery, mental health, parenting, and relationships. Erin knows first-hand the challenges of addiction recovery and has established herself as a respected voice in the national conversation about the overdose epidemic. Erin's debut memoir, Strung Out , appeared on most antici…

Super quick check in on NEW THEME SONG, hosty (singular), our openness to feedback on some but not all things and just seeing what's good! Like! Subscribe! Rate! Tell your friends! Tell your enemies! Follow us: @fuckyeahsobersex instagram @sobersexpodcast twitter @louisahhh instagram @louisahhhH twitter episode cover photo by @sabrinawestmoreland…

Mumu is a singer, songwriter, actor, musician, feminist and dear friend. Her strong political viewpoints and advocacy are evident in her lyrics and music videos, as is her personal experience with everything from addiction and mental illness to sexuality, embodiment and pleasure. We are delighted to welcome Mumu to Sober Sex! @musicofmumu…

Brandon O'Connell is an old friend, and after a long history struggling with addiction, incarceration and homelessness, Brandon has now been clean and sober since 2017, and has made altruism a way of life, working with Vantage Point in LA and San Diego to help people post-incarceration and those struggling with addiction. In addition, Brandon has a…

With us today is Courtney Wittich, formerly of C.Wittich media, now of being a liberated queen of vision, creativity, adventures and generally a good life. Courtney is a dream guest because we talk about her often (as a beacon of delight and general ray of sunshine) and we are ecstatic to introduce one of our very favorite people to the Sober Sex a…

Kate Marlene is an American author, podcaster and artist living in Berlin. She is also a narrative therapist and social justice advocate, focused on individual and community healing. In this episode we discussed her journey into recovery and through motherhood and divorce as a sober woman, what reinvention looks like in recovery and how embracing f…

Mandy Manners is a habit change & well-being specialist and a coach who helps women heal & thrive in their lives, sobriety, wellness and beyond. She is an author, speaker & professional trainer who uses her own story to break down stigma and raise awareness of the interconnection between mental ill health, trauma, identity and addiction. In this co…

Ego death … Connectivity.. Loneliness.. Brain farts… Struggling with pronouns.. Neuroplasticity…Parenthood.. Intimacy.. Nous 3. Louisa + Lily + Rose get real @fuckyeahsobersex

Em is the co-founder and editor in chief of the solutions journalism platform Everyday Grit and soon to be rebranded The Inspirer!! They started this platform out of frustration of the news only reporting on the problems that our world faces without telling the stories of the people who are dedicating their lives to finding solutions. They believe …

Maé is a French American print maker and ceramicist currently residing in Paris, France. Her work touches on subjects such as sexuality and spirituality and uncomfortable things like shame and trauma. She is finishing her masters this year and (hopefully) publishing her book soon on Japanese rope bondage as a radical act of relational humanity INST…

In this episode, we welcome Rose back from maternity leave and focus on evolution and intimacy. There is laughter and tears (per usual) and talk of motherhood, creativity, putting in work, Red Hot Chili Peppers and Lisa Simpson. A great time is had by all; won't you join us?

Tadeo Ilarde is a student getting his masters in Human Rights, specializing in Migration at one of Paris’ most esteemed universities. We discuss the difference between sex work and sex trafficking and which populations tend to slip through the cracks even when governments are progressive in their legislation around sex. Additionally, we learn about…

Heather Hayes is the founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes & Associates, Inc. She is a Master’s level Licensed Counselor, Board Registered Interventionist (CIP) and Certified ARISE Interventionist. Ms. Hayes earned her B.A. from Emory University and her M.Ed. from Antioch University in Counseling Psychology. A veteran of the behavioral health field, …

In this episode we review exciting highlights of the past year and discuss our aspirations moving forward with the podcast and in life, in addition to our fears, desires and silly dogs.

Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent…

Emilyn Kowaleski is a sober queer feminist writer, director, and facilitator working towards collective healing, transformation, and liberation. They are on a mission to dismantle the oppressive forces that prevent us from being and being seen in the wholeness of our humanity. A theater-maker by training, Emilyn writes in a blend of disciplines inc…

Francesca Ayala is a multi talented event producer, comedian, author and force of love and inclusivity in the world. In this episode, we discuss the therapeutic properties of comedy, cultural diversity in recovery and Fran's journey into sobriety during the pandemic. We are delighted to get to know her better on Sober Sex! TW: Early Childhood Sexua…

Brandon Rice is a person with an impressive and varied resume across numerous different fields. Louisa and Brandon met on a rave cruise where he was acting as tour manager around 2016 and since then he’s been A & R for a rad indie label, worked with the midnight mission in DTLA and is presently getting his masters degree in psychology. This episode…

On this week’s episode we talk with comedian and author Rebecca Rush. Enlightening, hilarious and a well of sex majik and deep wisdom, this conversation is a true delight. We discuss how escorting can be a healthy choice for self empowerment and financial security, laughing with others about the things we are ashamed with is the path to freedom, se…

Alex2tone is a powerful truth angel, in addition to being the design director of LA-based street wear brand ‘Born x Raised’, graffiti artist, tattooer, film director and general creative force. He describes his evolving work to be characterized by ‘strange realness’ and a ‘trashy streak’. Whatever it is that ties the multi-hyphens of 2tone’s glorio…