169: Keeping the Positive Perspective in Your Blended Family: Part 1 – Live Your Values

The Remarried Life

Brian Mayer discusses how to maintain a positive perspective within you blended family. Negativity can become a very common mental state for many if not all members of the family. In this three part series we will take a look at ways you may not have thought of to help maintain more positivity for you personally and in your relationships with your family. We hope you are inspired by today’s message. For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com

Today's Goodies

• Today in part one of our series on maintaining more positivity, we will focus on living out and making decisions through the lens of our core values.
• Often when our internal compass aligns with what happens on the outside whether again it be with our view on the most important things in life or how we make decisions, we can often feel more joy.
• So what are core values? Most would say they are fundamental beliefs or guiding principles.
• Get in touch with your core values by doing a simple search on the internet for a list of common core values. Then take some time find 3-5 that really speak to you and that help you understand how you would like to live your life.
• Next determine if your decision making is aligned with those values. If it is not then think about ways to start doing more of that. Now of course you won’t be able to 100% of the time make decisions that will align, but the more you can do it the better
• As a fun exercise between partners, I would encourage you each to find the core value that speaks most to each of you. Then role play a discussion on one of you maintaining your core value while the other has to give up their core value.
• Then discuss how the conversation went. You can learn a lot about each other by doing something like that.
• Again though getting in touch more with your core values and even your partners core values can help maintain more positivity. You might even want to get the kids involved in the core value discussion.

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