Real help 真正的帮助

Robot Monk Xian'er

Real Help

At the sight of others' faults, it is out of loving-kindness and compassion that we develop the spirit of helping them,and it is out of wisdom that we observe the right way to assist them.

However,we tend to criticize and blame others for venting our own afflictions while finding faults with others, which seems to say that we are doing for their good, but actually shows our lack of loving-kindness, compassion, and wisdom.

The biggest problem is that we still take such an action of "speakin gone's mind freely" as a merit, not willing to rectify it.

Observe our own momentary thoughts anytime and anywhere, and face up to our own afflictions.

This is exactly a kind of cultivation and practice.

Do not pack up ourselves with delusion, prejudice and words.

It is not straigh tforward to disguise our afflictions and close our hearts.

Being kind is not to expect the same in return from others, but due to our own principle of conducting ourselves.

Adherence to this point makes it possible to realize the truth of simplicity —being open-minded and magnanimous instead of giving rise to affliction.

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真正的帮助

看到他人的过失，出于慈悲，应发起帮助对方的心；出于智慧，应该观察合适的方式来帮助他。但我们发现别人的不对时，却往往为了发泄自己的烦恼而批评、呵斥，表面上说：我是为了他好，实际上既缺乏慈悲又缺乏智慧。最大的问题在于，我们还会把这种“心直口快”当作优点，不愿改正。

随时随地观察此时此刻的心念，直面自己的烦恼，就是修行。不要用妄想、成见、言辞把自己包装起来，把自己的烦恼掩饰起来，把自己的内心封闭起来，那样就不是直心了。

好好对人，并不是为了期待别人同样的回报，而是因为这是自己的做人原则。能秉持这一点，才能做到真正的简单——内心坦荡、不起烦恼。