Bystanders 因缘旁观者

Robot Monk Xian'er

Bystanders

When worrying about gains and losses, one suffers. In exams, when students want a better grade really badly, they do below par; in sport games, when athletes want to win really badly, they make a lot of mistakes; in relationships, when people want to hold on tight to someone else really badly, they make that person suffocate; in seeing oneself, when one wishes to be perfect really badly, one tends to have a lower self-esteem. All these afflictions come from “clinging”. When we let go of our this clinging, we can become a balanced person and act appropriately.
Thus, we should cherish the moment and avoid aiming too high, having delusions about what one cannot achieve, and over estimating oneself. What we are experiencing in the moment is the best, and our lives are these moments put together. When we are not involved in other causes and conditions, however good they may be, we are still by standers.
One can read biographies of saints. When being trapped in swamps that we cannot get out of by ourselves, we need external help. Reading biographies of saints can immerse our hearts in their compassion, aspiration and strong willpower, which can bring out our inner light and cast away the darkness of afflictions.

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因缘旁观者

患得患失，当下就在痛苦之中。考场上，学生太想考出好成绩，反而发挥不佳；赛场上，运动员太想获得胜利，反而失误频发；与人相处中，太想抓住一个人，反而把对方逼得透不过气来；面对自己，太希望自己完美，反而愈发自卑。种种烦恼，皆因“执著”而来！放下内心的执念，才能恰到好处的做人、做事。
要珍惜当下，不要这山望着那山高，幻想和高估自己没有得到的。自己正在经历的就是最好的，每一个当下加起来，就构成了自己的人生。其他的因缘再好，自己没有参与，也是旁观者。
可以读一些圣贤的传记。当我们陷入泥沼，自己很难拔出来，需要外援的帮助。学习圣贤的传记，让我们的心置于其悲心愿力、坚强意志的熏染中，能启发自心光明，驱散烦恼阴云。