How To Stick To Your Goals

Learn It Live It Give It with Jairek Robbins

Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRC TV. Today we’re going to focus on three main reasons why people fall off track, don’t follow through or fail to accomplish the goal they’re going after.

So what are these three reasons that we’re talking about?

Number 1: Think of a goal or an outcome you are trying to accomplish, one that you still haven’t got to. What’s the story? Why haven’t you achieved it yet? What is the excuse you keep telling yourself about why you haven’t got there yet? Is it, I don’t have enough resources? I just haven’t put in the effort? I’m lazy? What are you telling yourself that’s keeping you from moving forward? Now, whatever that story is, my impression is, and I can see this based on all the clients we worked with, that most of these stories have a bad habit or physical habit you do or avoid doing that actually keeps you from getting the result you really want. For example, if you tell yourself; I ran out of resources, I don’t have enough time, I don’t have enough money, I don’t know the right people, whatever it is, there is a habit, a physical habit of not moving forward until you feel that you’re running low on resources. Then all of a sudden, you are either turning around or planting yourself there and going “Oh no no no no”, not moving or running backwards and that’s a physical habit.

My impression is a lot of these stories can be fixed by training your physical body behaviorally to keep walking forward, even when it starts to feel like you have a lack of resources. If you can train your body to do that, the next time the story of I don’t have the time for this, I’m just gonna do one more minute then, I don’t have the time, I’m gonna do one more minute, and if you keep moving forward, you’ll find that you do have the time and you didn’t get it done. If you’re running out of financial resources, you’re like “Oh my gosh, we’re running out of money.” And you say, “Listen, I’m just gonna find a way to make one more sale, to make one more raise, to make one more investment into this, and if you keep edging forward, eventually it’ll work out. What’s wild is if you train your body physically to get through it, it’s amazing how you can keep momentum on your side versus allowing the story to always cause you to physically get into the habit of stopping moving forward. So, into this worksheet, the first thing I want you to do is to write down one goal you’ve wanted to achieve, that you have not accomplished yet.

Number 2, what’s the story or excuse for why you haven’t gotten there? Then number 3, what will you tell yourself or what will you do, what will become your mantra? Or the phrase you tell yourself that’s just one more step, one more whatever to keep the momentum on your side, drive yourself forward to that moment by keeping that saying going in your head again and again and again. Just one more step, just one more step, just one more step and keep momentum. You can will yourself through that stuck point and all of a sudden you realize you can keep momentum going and get right through it, that’s the first reason.

The second reason why people end up giving up is they work like crazy and then at some point they come up for a break. They look around and start comparing, comparing themselves to other people around them and other people’s progress. This can help if you look for “Wow, is like it’s that so far I’m like him or her, oh great I’m almost there”, if you compare correctly, it can help propel you forward or inspire you. If you compare incorrectly, it's like looking at how far you have to go versus how far you have come in that comparison.