157. The Right Kind of Hard: Radical Acceptance

Don't Cut Your Own Bangs

Please note: This episode includes a discussion of pregnancy and miscarriage.

Our series on “The Right Kind of Hard” would not be complete without an examination of radical acceptance. It's probably the hardest to do, which makes it the rightest of the hardest to do. Ultimately, I think, the degree of difficulty makes radical acceptance most worthy of our energy and exploration.

How does radical acceptance apply to everything that we've explored so far? Why is it hard? Why do we avoid it? What does it really mean?

When we’re faced with a new reality that we don't like — a reality that hurts — we often try to negotiate with that reality. We focus on what was or what we think should have been, or we create a future that is not based in reality.

Our other option is to recognize that our new reality is the right kind of hard. Only after we allow ourselves to sit with the discomfort can we accept it and perhaps even embrace it because only then can we see that we have choices.

As always, thank you so much for listening. I hope you’ve found value in this series on “The Right Kind of Hard.” I'll be back with new episodes in July after taking a short break. In the meantime, give yourself a therapeutic experience: feed the birds, tell jokes, make bad art, be silly. Let yourself play.

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