1: Power Of Change
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Hi. This is your host, Edison Ho
In this episode, I will be sharing with you, “Power Of Change”
How many of you have experienced the Power Of Change in your life? A small or big change that shifts the way you look at your world. Your life just felt so different.
There were so many choices that I made that changed my life. And today I would like to share with you a story during my time in primary school. A small change that shifted the whole paradigm.
Most of the people who know me now won’t believe a man with a hunky body, looking like a bad boy with tattoos around my entire body, was just a skinny little boy who was always being picked on, because of my size.
I believe everyone, in a lifetime, definitely encountered someone who tried to bully you, hurt you, or even humiliate you.
During primary 2, I remembered clearly, there was once a spelling session in my English lesson.
I studied hard for this, but eventually, I forgot one spelling to get full marks. Sitting beside me, a girl wanted to help me and asked me to copy hers.
And when I did that, she raised her hand and told the teacher I copied her. That was really hilarious.
So, in the end, my form teacher had to call my parents, and my mum got so upset about the situation and requested a retest to prove her son was capable of the test.
I mean, whose mum won’t do that if their son was innocent and being set up?
And that was not the end. After my mum also confronted her mum about the incident, her daughter continued to set me up the second time during a recess.
She knows that I love flag erasers because she saw me playing with the boys in class.
And that day, I was standing near a bookshop waiting to end the recess so that I could go straight to the parade square for assembly.
She came running, standing right in front of me. She was one head taller. She asked,
if I want some flag eraser? At that moment, for 5 seconds I looked her in the eyes and didn’t know what to answer, and she said, “I know you want it, just stand outside and wait for me.”
I remembered clearly that the shop window was wide open. I saw her going in and grabbing lots of erasers and shaft them into her pocket. I guess you know what happens next. She got caught. When the aunty asked her why she did that, she pointed at me, saying I was the one who asked her to steal it. I was LUCKY, aunty didn’t believe her. And I walked away.
At that moment, you might think that I was so cool, but honestly, I almost pee my pants. I got a shiver down my spine. I asked myself, “why would someone do that to me?
After all those incidents, I asked myself, am I too stupid? or I'm not more competent than my peers. Why dId I always get set up or be bullied? I went home crying, telling my mum and dad about it, and they told me I need to be strong.
They told me their stories and how they overcome being bullied. Being strong is one, deciding what to do next is what I should really do. Am I going to just do nothing and continue to let this happen or plan what is my next move to stop her from bullying me.
But telling myself to be strong is pointless, I thought to myself. What should I do which will help me to stop being bullied or picked on. What do I need to do instantly to change the whole situation?
I thought really hard, but nothing came to my mind. So I decided to avoid her. I requested to change my seat. Every time she comes talking to me, I walk away. After a while, I realized it works! She stopped pestering me, she stopped talking to me.
From there on, I learned something! Sometimes no plan is a plan. And no plan was a decision I made to change the entire game.
Can you tell, making a decision is such a powerful act to do? Every action I choose to take in my life is a change I want to make.
Let me share with you another true story. Few years back, I met one guy walking his dog outside his condo while I was waiting for my client. We started talking, and back then, he was chucky and also carrying a stomach like he was pregnant. I ask if he goes to the gym or does he have a coach. And he told me, he used to have, but because he injured his back, he stopped training.
No way I said, how can you stop training completely just because you injured your back? He was being careful I can completely understand but as a coach, this is just my job to push an individual mindset.
After I evaluated his condition, he could walk, he could run and he could drive. So there is no reason for him not to even start something light or simple routine to prevent him from getting obese or hear disease.
And so after a few months, he called me, he told me, he is ready to start. I asked him why. He told me, I managed to convince him to start training. He wants to take a step forward to make a change. I said “GOOD!, you cannot just believe that you are injured and just stop training for the rest of your life.” You need to start taking baby steps.
And because he took that step, today, he has his six packed and a very strong body! Not going to lie, during the whole process, there are many setbacks. For instance, he felt his back was weird, so he went to the chiropractor for adjustment in order to continue training. His diet was bad, so I monitored his diet daily and with the help of his nutritionist, he managed to follow and keep to his healthy diet. And because he was a heavy smoker, recovering from this training was affected but he quitted smoking in order to fulfill what he started.
I have to give respect to him. The changes he made were what only superman could do. Even though I was there to guide him, coach him, push him and give him motivation, in the end, he needs to first set his mind right and then believe that he can change! The drive he had was totally whole new level.
He can easily just blame his back for stopping him to even start training. He can find excuses for not quitting smoking, he could blame his environment for not being able to keep up with his diet. He could blame his dogs for taking up his time and not being able to go to the gym.
But he did not, that’s why he made it!
So that’s it! This is how “The Power Of Change” can shift your paradigm, and makes you look at your world differently.
If you are one who gets stuck with excuses and reasons you give yourself not to start making a change, no one is going to come and fix it for you. You are going to fix it yourself.
I’ve seen so much through my 13 years of coaching clients, I’ve seen the change in so many ways. And usually one leads to another. First you decided to make a change to yourself, then because you committed to change, so you decided to change your lifestyle habit, and because of that, your health became better, when your health becomes better, your recovery from training becomes faster, and you grow stronger and as you grow stronger, you impact how people look and treat you.
Does that sound agreeable to you ? Do you think you are ready to make that change in your life? Or are you in the process of making a change already?
No matter which point you are at right now, the world will not wait for you. The only thing...
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