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Welcome to Enjoying Your Blended Family! We bring new episodes every Monday and Friday. Mondays are on hot topics in blended families and Fridays are all about fun ideas you can do with your blended family. This podcast is all about strengthening your blended family relationships and having more fun, giving you hope and encouragement so everyone is enjoying the journey together.
 
We're Mike and Kim Anderson. We set out on our blended family adventure over 20 years ago thinking it would be a cinch…but quickly found out how complicated things can be. Following a painful co-parenting battle with an Ex, we found ourselves disconnected and teetering on the brink of divorce. Then we got to work discovering how to overcome all our challenges and guide our family to thrive. If you're a stepmom or stepdad frustrated with how challenging it is to be a step-parent. Or you're a ...
 
A blended family is such an important topic because it’s dealing with so many lives, not just that of you and your spouse. You have your kids and your spouses kids of course, but you also have the other sets of parents to contend with (if there is shared custody). With so many cooks in the kitchen, it can make sanity hard to come by on some days. We can lose our way in the midst of chaos, jealousy, insecurity, frustration, anger, confusion, miscommunication, and power struggles. This podcast ...
 
The Blended Family Podcast is a weekly show with a strong focus on strategies and methods to help your family thrive. Blended Families face many difficulties and challenges which can sometimes drive families apart. The goal of this podcast is is to help your family grow together through these challenges and create the peaceful and loving home you desire. Your host, Melissa, understands these struggles because she has a blended family of her own. When you listen to this podcast, you will see ...
 
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Do you remember that vibrant sense of friendship you had early on in your relationship? It was a strong connection and it created this pull toward each other that was almost irresistible. But somewhere amid the crazy schedules, complex relationships, and differences of perspective, maybe you feel more like business partners or roommates these days.…
 
Staying away from the Big D (and we don’t mean Dallas)! Most blended families have experienced divorce before. So how can we make sure that it won’t happen again to us? Dr. Kim Kimberling from Awesome Marriage joins us in this episode, and shares some valuable information on how you can keep your marriage growing stronger together instead of growin…
 
Is your family communication filtered or unfiltered?In this digital age we have many communication filtering options. Say your mobile phone rings, but you let it go to voicemail. You listen to the message and reply with a text. That’s filtering. This has pros and cons. For blended families, filtering can help reduce conflict in strained relationshi…
 
Well, here it is parents. The single best discipline strategy known to mankind.The best way to shape a child’s behavior is to notice them doing what you want and call attention to it. Catch them doing something right. Compliments put a smile on your face and encourage you, right? Build others up, the Bible commends in Ephesians 4:29, that it may be…
 
Soooo, how strong is your flexibility muscle?Like a pair of Olympic ice-skaters, your family needs strength and stability to lean on each other but flexibility to bend, spin, or move in sequenced motion. Just like that, parents should have consistent expectations for their children, but adjust their expectations as they grow. Couples need clear val…
 
Parenting is challenging at times. So, here’s a discipline tip for parents and stepparents: Connect the dots.It’s important to help children connect their choices with the consequences that follow. If a child spills their milk they should clean it up. If they agree to finish their chores before supper but don’t they shouldn’t get to eat until they …
 
Are you challenging me??? It’s not a serious challenge, but one that will add some fun to your marriage. We share some fun date ideas that you and your spouse can have from this simple challenge, and it doesn’t even cost you any money. Are you up for the challenge? EPISODE RESOURCES: HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your…
 
Ron, I never thought I’d say this, but my 67-year-old mom has a boyfriend.Yes, adult children have thought about their parent dating again, but once it’s real, it’s just bizarre. Sometimes their roles change. The child becomes the dating coach, telling their parent how to ask for a date and to guard against sexual temptation. Ewww. And all the whil…
 
If you want to love someone well, be a gentle-servant.Jesus washing his disciple’s feet in John 13 in the Bible is such a profound picture of love. And it really is simple: When you pay a compliment to a child, you’re washing their feet. When you serve your spouse, you’re washing their feet. When you put on self-control and calmly respond in a heat…
 
Resources from this episode: Episode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionistic" Ideals and Disappointments Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show? Let us know! We've made it easy. Just click here: https://www.mikeandkimcoaching.com/share Ready for some extra …
 
This is ironic, in today’s digital world we’re more connected and disconnected than ever before.Jealousy and envy are at an all-time high in our culture. Why? Because the daily highlight reel of social media makes everyone else’s life look perfect. So, while we’re seemingly more connected to other people’s lives, we distance ourselves in envy becau…
 
What does God say about divorce and remarriage? Many are quick to throw the Bible at people, many are hurting and desperate to know where they stand with God, and some just honestly don’t know. Am I living in sin, can I ever love again, does God hate me??? There can be so many questions if you have ever gone through the devastation of a divorce or …
 
As parents and stepparents, we want to raise our kids well, but we often feel inadequate. In this episode, Ron Deal talks with Ginger Hubbard about parenting the heart of our children, seeking a change in behavior that stems from a change in their heart, and motivating them to become God-pleasers, not people-pleasers. Show Notes and Resources Get a…
 
In biological families, when a husband and wife move toward each other, they bring their children with them.Children are blessed when mom and dad love each other and spend time together. But in the beginning in a stepfamily it’s different. When a parent and stepparent spend time together children sometimes feel pushed aside. This naturally puts the…
 
“You want a taco?” Okay, so that’s just one approach to asking your bonus kid to hangout with you (and a pretty good one we might add), but there are a lot of fun ways we can be intentional on dating our stepkids. We share three ways you can present some really cool opportunities to hangout with your stepkids and build that relationship over having…
 
Sometimes life throws you a curve.My five-year-old daughter adored Mike. They had a great connection and things were going well. But of course, the night before the wedding, she says, I don’t want you to marry Mike. I was blindsided. What’s going on here? I interviewed Kim Anderson and her husband, Mike, for the FamilyLife Blended podcast. Boy did …
 
When you get stuck, ask someone to pull you out.When you struggle how do you know if you need help from an outside source? One indication is you rehash the same territory. One woman wrote that for years her husband talked about his former wife: what went right or wrong, why she left, and how it affected the kids. Clearly he’s stuckand the compariso…
 
Ron, he has nothing to do with them. He has completely shut down toward my kids.I think foster parents and stepparents are heroes because they sacrificially chose to love, provide for, and raise a child not their own, sometimes in difficult circumstances. That’s why it pains me when I hear about a stepparent who is M.I.A. It’s rare, but some refuse…
 
Have you ever tried to describe your blended family's unique challenges to a friend — only to be met with a blank stare because they simply didn't understand? Or maybe you felt judged by someone who just didn't get the reality of your family dynamics. Or somewhere along the way you were given advice that just wasn't helpful. Most of us living in bl…
 
Someone once said that being nagged is like being nibbled to death by a duck.Well, it seems the book of Proverbs agrees because five times it makes reference to a quarrelsome spouse who is like a continual dripping of rain, it says. Apparently nagging is like water torture. Why do people nag? Because they are unhappy with something. But the questio…
 
How do we still stay present with our stepkids when we’re being rejected by them? The step-parent and stepkid relationship isn’t always an easy relationship, there can be a lot of outside influences and a lot of hurt feelings on both sides. But as a step-parent there are certain things we can do to help make growing that relationship easier. We sha…
 
Now, as far as national days go, Mother’s Day and Thanksgiving I get. But Bologna Day?There’s Fruitcake Toss Day; Learn Your Name in Morse Code Day; Chocolate Cake Day (I’m an advocate for that one); Work Naked Day (I’m not an advocate for that one); Talk Like Yoda Day; and No Rhyme or Reason Day. If you ask me most of these days have no rhyme or r…
 
It’s not wrestling, it’s a mystery date!!! Detective Scarlett (without a badge) and non-detective Randall describe what mystery dates are and how you can use them to pour fun into your blended family. This is a fun way to build your relationships, called a FunFamOp (well, Randall tries to get that one to stick with little success). These mystery da…
 
Actions speak much louder than words.Someone who stands up and stands beside you in tough times, really loves you. After our middle son died, many who we thought were friends drifted away. They couldn’t handle it or us, I’m not sure what happened. But people we didn’t know well stood by and stayed with us. Their friendship was undeniable. In blende…
 
Creating a healthy, secure relationship with each of your children and step-children is probably a high priority for you. But the complex journey of parenting is challenging — and adding the realities of blending families can make it even more daunting! Sometimes we just need expert advice. That's what we have for you in this episode where we got t…
 
There is no perfect marriage, and no perfect family! (Whew, that should be a relief for us all, right?) Then why do we chase after it so hard sometimes? We can try to make everyone else fit into the version of love or family we think it should be. The great news is we can be free from this, and it can bring us a lot more peace and happiness. Dr. Al…
 
Are you in the early years of blending a family and you wonder if life will ever get easier? Listen to Ron Deal & Gayla Grace talk about the honeymoon season that often follows the hard relationship-building years and the rewards that come as familyness begins. Show Notes and Resources Look for a blended small group happening in your area. Get a co…
 
Who says a library has to be boring??? What if we said you could experience a pretty awesome date night at the library and it’s free, would you be intrigued? The library offers so many cool things besides just books. We give you the ins and outs to what a library can offer, and how you can use this to have a lot of family fun. Free fun family date …
 
In this episode, we're excited to continue our conversation about the amazing resource called 'The 6 Needs of Every Child' by Jeffrey and Amy Olrick. We'll share the final 3 needs outlined in the book. You won't want to miss part 2 of this discussion, and we have a little surprise for you at the end. You'll Discover: How to develop security, resili…
 
A priceless gift you could give your kids. Some have said “What would you say to your younger self if you could?” Although we can’t do that, we could write down the things we have learned in life and wisdom we could share, and pass that along to our kids. Andy McQuitty joins us in this episode and shares how 5 journals to his 5 kids, written for a …
 
“When our bodies get rubbed, it feels good.” A quote by Scarlett that we should put on a T-shirt, lol. If you’ve never had a professional massage then you are missing out. Why not bring that relaxation and atmosphere to your house? This is something you and your spouse can use to spice up the bedroom or just have a relaxing evening. We share ways t…
 
We all want to raise kids that are secure, resilient and confident. We also want to experience genuine connection with our kids and step-kids. But stepfamily dynamics can be confusing, overwhelming and frustrating — especially when it comes to parenting. It might feel like all the complexity tends to rob you of that connection you're looking for. I…
 
Don’t worry about it??? (A lot easier said than done sometimes, right?) We’ve all dealt with anxiety on some level before, and it can definitely be seen in a blended family. Many of our blending challenges can cause worry or anxiety in us and in our kids. But how do we know if it’s real or if we could use some help overcoming this? Dr. Tracey Marks…
 
The Business of a Blended Family, oh yes, you read that right. On this episode of Blended Life we assert that bringing the best parts of entrepreneurship into your blended family can help it succeed. Implementing intentionality, care, concern for your blended family, as if it were your own business, matters more than you know. If you are wondering …
 
Is God calling you to minister to blended families, but you feel inadequate? We have a solution! Listen to Ron Deal explain how to earn an online ministry certificate as you glean from blended family experts with 7 hours of engaging video content, thoughtful handouts to help you reflect and apply, and bonus resources to use again and again. Show No…
 
It is said that if you feed them, they will come! I don’t know who said it, but it sounds pretty legit, lol. We’re bringing back an oldie but a goodie! This episode, we talk about how you can add food and have a fun date with your spouse, all while having a little competitive fun in the process. This is a cheap idea that can spice up your relations…
 
Want to learn more about promoting peace in co-parenting? Check out these episodes: Co-Parenting Episodes Or read a few of these articles: Co-Parenting Articles Ready for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you e…
 
Do you know what the different desire styles for sex are? Or what is your style? Dan Purcell from GET YOUR MARRIAGE ON, joins us in this episode to share the 3 reasons why we don’t initiate sex more in our marriage, along with many ways we can make initiating sex more fun and enjoyable. When you’re able to communicate your desires with each other, …
 
Do you know what overlanding is? We didn’t until we found this amazing couple, Necota and Sonya Staples, who now run STAPLES INTENTS. They explain about the outdoors, what overlanding is and how it saved their marriage. They were on the brink of divorce, until they got some valuable information that they needed to start saying “YES” more to each ot…
 
Every parent wants their kids to be safe, healthy, and supported as they grow up. But as they head toward blending a family, many parents worry that stepfamily dynamics might actually cause harm — robbing their kids of a sense of stability and security. The truth is there are some "easy wrong turns" that couples sometimes make that can increase the…
 
Do you ever feel tired, stressed, worn out, or lonely? Life and all our responsibilities can have a way of draining us. But we don’t have to let that be our story, there is a better way. Dominic Done shares some staggering statistics about how lonely and burnout most people are feeling right now. The main cause isn’t what we might think, it all com…
 
Put liars in their place so you can focus on what is most important, your family unit. Blended Life is riddled with lies, gossip, gaslighting and other hurtful and oftentimes destructive lashes of the tongue. While this really can be hard for us adults, it's often detrimental to the children's well-being; they are the ones who really suffer. Since …
 
Families are changing. Non-traditional families are now considered traditional. As churches, how do we continue to meet the needs of complex families and serve them well? Listen to Ron Deal's conversation with three senior pastors on why and how churches can love all families, despite the narrative of their past. Show Notes and Resources Learn more…
 
It can be bitter sweet! Summer is coming to an end and our kids are starting to go back to school. Right in this transition, there are a lot of things we can still do to have fun and build our relationships through laughter. We share 10 Things You Can Do As A Family for some end of summer fun. Even though summer is ending, we don’t have to let the …
 
Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show? Let us know! We've made it easy. Just click here: https://www.mikeandkimcoaching.com/share Ready for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a …
 
Who doesn’t love a good story? Why not pass on your family’s stories to your kids? As a parent, we can help foster the imagination in our kids and create adventure and excitement, even without leaving our own backyards. Author Alison McGregor shares how we can do that, and how she was greatly influenced through her mom’s stories about when she was …
 
Happy 100th Birthday!!!! We are celebrating our 100th episode with a list of our top 3 favorite Fun Friday episodes. The catch is that Randall doesn’t know Scarletts and Scarlett doesn’t know Randalls. So join us as we reveal them to everyone (and each other) and why they are so special to us. This is a fun episode for all of our BFam community. EP…
 
Our bonus episode offers another question and answer format with Ron Deal and Gayla Grace to address those hard-to-navigate circumstances in your blended family with solutions that offer nuggets of wisdom and practical suggestions. Show Notes and Resources Find a therapy provider. Get Smart Stepfamily resources Check out all FamilyLife Blended has …
 
Do you have stepfamily questions for the experts? We have answers! Listen to Ron Deal and Gayla Grace discuss everyday issues that frequently show up in blended family homes—along with practical solutions—to help you find harmony in your relationships. Show Notes and Resources Get Smart Stepfamily resources Check out all FamilyLife Blended has to o…
 
Do you struggle to find unity as a couple or need help setting boundaries with an ex-spouse and co-parenting successfully? Or maybe you could use a few tips on navigating the teen years with your stepdaughters. Listen to Ron Deal's conversation with Kirk McGregor on these common stepfamily topics & more. Show Notes and Resources Get Smart Stepfamil…
 
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